You're Not Too Busy! Crush Your Health Goals With These 3-Steps

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A lack of time, a lack of willpower, and a lack of money.

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What do these three things have in common?

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They are the three biggest reasons why most men tell me they are yet to

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achieve their health and wellness goals.

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But here's the thing.

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Overwhelmingly, the lack of time is the number one answer that I get.

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And it's also completely untrue.

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Now, I get it.

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You might be thinking, what do you mean it's completely untrue, Stephen?

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That is ridiculous.

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I have work.

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And a lot of times I'm maybe having to go into the office early.

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I'm having to stay late.

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I'm trying to make time to be a better husband or a better boyfriend.

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I'm, dealing with the kids and they have extracurricular activities.

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How can you sit there and tell me that a lack of time is not my biggest issue?

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And listen, I totally get where you're coming from.

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I'm not suggesting that those things don't take up a lot of time.

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I'm not suggesting that you just have this overabundance of time available to you.

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What I'm telling you is that time is not your biggest obstacle.

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Because the reality is even when you're super busy, It is possible to carve out

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time, and that's what we're going to actually break down in today's episode.

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Intro/Outro: Are you ready to break free from your old habits and create a better

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life for yourself and those around you?

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If so, welcome to Unshakable Habits, the podcast dedicated to helping

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welcome to Unshakable Habits, the podcast dedicated

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to helping men prioritize their physical and mental well being.

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I am your host, board certified health and wellness coach, Stephen Box.

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And guys, today, as I say, we're going to break down this idea that time

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is the biggest obstacle to achieving your health and wellness goals, and

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I'm going to show you why it's not, and I'm going to show you what might

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actually be the issues that are holding you back from achieving those goals.

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I'm going to give you a framework to get around them, and then, at the end of this

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episode, I'm going to give you one of my very favorite tools that you can use.

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to figure out where to find more time in your day.

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So make sure you stay tuned to the very end for that.

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we will talk about what it is that you need to do to get to the next level.

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with that, let's jump into this conversation.

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Let's start with a couple of examples here of really busy people

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who've still managed to find time for their health and wellness.

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So let's start with Sir Richard Branson, obviously has a lot of responsibilities.

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And this guy is 72 years old, by the way, so if age was one of your big things that

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you feel is an obstacle for you, you can go ahead and throw that out the window

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too, because this guy is 72 years old.

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And.

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Despite all his responsibilities he has, he still carves out time

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every single day for exercise.

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He does strength training.

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He also likes to go out and do some activities that he considers

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a little bit more fun stuff.

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And he says that Doing these things on a daily basis helps him to feel better.

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He has more energy.

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He's more focused.

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In other words, he understands that by taking time to take care of

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himself physically, and then doing something that allows him to go out

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and mentally kind of decompress, he actually makes himself a better leader.

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And He makes himself more effective.

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He makes himself more productive.

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Another good example, whether you agree with the politics of this person or not

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is irrelevant here, but Barack Obama, when he was the president of the United States

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of America, he took out time every day for exercise or like he would play basketball,

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things like that, because he understood that, yes, I have a very important role,

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but if I don't have something, that is going to keep my energy levels up.

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If I don't have something that's going to keep me in peak physical condition,

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if I don't have something that allows me to get away, take care of myself,

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mentally clear my head out, I am going to be less effective in my role.

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So, Both of those guys have that in common.

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They understood that exercise and mental health, that physical and mental well

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being that we talked so much about on this podcast, that they were not

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just things that were nice to have.

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They were absolute necessities.

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If they're going to perform at a high level, and here's the thing, guys, you

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don't need to be the CEO of a company or the president of the United States

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in order to benefit from this mindset.

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This is a mindset that every single one of us as men should have.

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So when we look at this, you have to ask yourself, what is it that makes it where

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these guys who are just as busy, if not busier than all of us, what is it that

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makes them able to take out this time?

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And I think one of the things that separates people like that

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from a lot of guys is They don't make the other excuses, right?

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So I told you there's three top reasons.

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There's time, there's willpower, and then there's money.

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And so I think a lot of people, they look at the examples I just

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gave and they go, Oh, you know, Richard Branson or Barack Obama.

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I mean, you know, those guys have money.

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You know, they can hire a trainer, they can hire personal chefs, they can do all

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these things, you know, or in the case of if you're the president, you just have all

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those things built in to your environment.

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And look, I'm not going to sit here and say that those things aren't

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valuable, but you know what, guys?

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A lot of us have a woman at home who will happily cook for us and will cook

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healthy meals for us if we ask her to.

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Because the reality is so often we're using this excuse of, well, I can't

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hire this professional for this and I can't do this or whatever, but

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we have resources available to us.

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Most of us have friends that are willing to help us with things.

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Most of us have people that we can delegate things out to that

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we choose to not delegate out.

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So, it's not a lack of resource.

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We have resources that are available to us.

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Even if you don't have someone at home to cook for you, meal delivery

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services don't really cost that much more these days than eating out or

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having to go to the store and buy food.

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And...

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The little bit extra you're going to pay to have the food already made

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for you is pretty, you know, much worth the extra time that you would

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normally have to spend fixing the food.

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So let's take that off the table.

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Let's just forget about for a second, the resources that we don't have.

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And let's focus on the ones we do have.

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Okay.

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And then we talk about willpower and, you know, guys, if you watched

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episode 42, which is The top three reasons most men feel overwhelmed.

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You remember I talk in there about how one of the things that I think

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overwhelms most men is feeling like we need to do everything.

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We have to do it all at once and we have to do it all perfectly.

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It's this all or nothing mentality and it is absolutely destroying

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your ability to consistently show up because you think you have to show up.

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Absolutely perfectly every single day is opposed to thinking you

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have to show up every day and be as perfect as you can that day, right?

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There's a difference.

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Let me repeat that because you may not have caught that because I said it a

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little bit fast So, let me repeat what I just said to you you May be thinking

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that in order to get results You need to show up perfectly every single day

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that you have to show up and do all the things the reality is You need to

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show up every single day as perfectly as you are capable of that day.

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And that's going to vary.

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So when we start talking about, Oh, I don't have time.

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I don't have time.

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Okay, we'll get to that here in just a second.

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But I just wanted to go ahead and acknowledge the fact that there's

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people out there very busy who they've managed to make the time.

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We've talked about why it's beneficial.

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because it's going to give you more energy.

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It's going to help you make better decisions.

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Cause you're going to have a clear head, right?

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You're going to have that decompression time.

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You're going to be better when you make the time for these things.

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We talked about.

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Lack of resources and how we can shift that view to look at the resources

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we do have and figure out how we can better utilize those resources, right?

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We've talked about overwhelm.

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We've talked about this idea of, you know, I, I don't have willpower.

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Well, you don't need willpower.

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If the only time you need willpower is when you're trying to make

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yourself do really hard things.

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If you.

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Learn how to scale back so that you can consistently show up and you

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just do what you can do that day.

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Willpower doesn't come into the equation, right?

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Or you very, you need very little willpower.

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It takes so much less willpower to show up for five minutes than it does

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to say, I'm going to go work out for an hour when I don't have an hour.

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And with that, that gets into the meat of, of what I really came

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to talk about, which was time and why it's not the biggest obstacle.

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Because the reality is.

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It is a matter of how you manage your time.

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It's not the time itself.

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Richard Branson, Barack Obama had the same 24 hours that you do.

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They didn't, they don't get to buy a 25th hour.

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Doesn't matter how much money they had.

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Doesn't matter what their position is.

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Doesn't matter their titles.

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They don't get a 25th hour in the day.

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They can't buy that.

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They get the exact same 24 hours that you do.

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Their hours still have 60 minutes in them.

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Their minutes still have 60 seconds.

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That's universal.

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We all have that same amount of time.

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The difference is how we utilize it.

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And I'm going to tell you what a lot of guys are doing.

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They're going out and they're buying books about time management.

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And they're looking at scheduling and they're looking at time

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blocking and they're looking at all these different things.

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And here's the reality.

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Those things are cool.

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Those things can absolutely be beneficial.

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They can help.

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There's going to be somebody listening to this right now that's going to say,

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yes, I started doing that and now I have time in my schedule to work out.

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And that's awesome.

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I'm not sitting here telling you that those things aren't going to be helpful.

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What I'm going to tell you is.

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That those things are a little bit more advanced.

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That there's some fundamental things we need to take care of before we get there.

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And guys, you've heard me talk before about the Unshakable Hero blueprint.

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And what this is, this is three parts.

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Vision, Discipline, Mastery.

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And we can apply this universally.

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So if we look at the idea of time, here's what we can start to see.

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If I am telling you, well, you know, I want to exercise.

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I want to spend more time working on my physical health.

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I want to take time out to sit in silence and work on my mental well being.

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I want to give myself that break that I need.

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But I just don't have the time.

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Well, here's the thing.

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What you don't have is a vision.

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You, if you're telling me that you lack time, because you have all these

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other priorities, all these other things going on, what you're telling

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me is, you have not sat down and came up with a clear specific vision

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for what you want life to look like.

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You are in reactive mode.

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You are reacting to what other people are asking of you.

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And sometimes those people are very important, and it feels super important

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to give them what they're asking for.

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I totally get that.

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But here is the reality.

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At some point, you've got to say no to something.

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And maybe that is saying no to watching your TV show.

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Maybe that is missing a football game.

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Maybe it is refusing to work overtime at work, right?

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It doesn't really matter what it is.

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Because that is going to vary so much for every last one of us.

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For some of you, when I said skip overtime at work or refuse to work overtime at

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work, some of your hearts dropped, okay?

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Because for you, work is so important that you could never see yourself doing that.

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Other people, if I had said maybe skip your kid's soccer practice, your

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heart would have dropped because for you, that's a super important thing.

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So I'm not going to tell you that there's a specific activity you need to drop.

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Maybe that 30 minutes of television that you get is the most important part

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of your day and it's really helping you with your mental well being.

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I'm not trying to take that away from you guys.

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All I'm pointing out to you is something Has to go.

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You have to say no to something if you're going to start saying yes to other things.

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So, this isn't about a lack of time, it's about how we are managing our time, it's

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about how we're prioritizing our time.

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And if you don't have a clear vision, which is the first part of the blueprint,

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how do you know what to eliminate?

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How do you know what to prioritize?

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Without that clear vision of what you want life to look like, you don't.

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And that's why that's the first step of the blueprint.

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Okay.

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The next step of the blueprint is discipline.

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Now, a lot of people, when they hear me say discipline, they

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immediately think willpower.

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And you're like, Stephen, you just told me that I shouldn't be relying on

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willpower or I should need very little willpower just to kind of get started.

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And here's the reality.

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Discipline is not about willpower.

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I like to use this example.

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There's easy hard and then there's hard hard.

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Easy hard is things that feel a little bit hard, but they're actually quite easy.

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And generally, they're not important.

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And then there's hard hard.

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These are things that are really hard for us to do, and they're really important.

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And we, a lot of times we'll avoid the hard, hard, and we will spend a

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lot of time on the easy, hard stuff.

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So give you a quick example here.

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It's a, as a solopreneur, when I started my business, hard, hard would have been.

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Teaching myself sales skills, even though I came from a sales background,

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there was still things I need to learn.

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Right?

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So teaching myself sales skills, developing those kind of skills,

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going out and applying them.

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Right?

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So not just learning them, but actually going out and applying them.

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The going out, getting in front of people, talking to people,

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engaging those conversations, and practicing those skills.

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That was the hard, hard.

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Right?

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The easy hard was just constantly saying, I need to learn another skill.

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I need to learn another skill.

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I need to learn another skill, right?

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Easy hard is when you spend five hours working on your

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website and your logo, right?

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Because It's something that feels important, feels a little bit challenging,

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but Hey, I'm going to make time to do it because it needs to get done, but we're

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not focused on what's the most important.

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So when we talk about discipline, discipline is not about willpower.

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Discipline is about recognizing the needle movers.

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It's about recognizing the changes that we need to make that are

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going to get us the results.

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Think about it this way.

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If there was a river and.

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You had a bunch of logs that built up and formed a dam.

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Well, what makes more sense to you?

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To go into the river and start just taking the logs off one at a time

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and, and just kind of hoping that eventually the water will get through?

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Or, What if you took a second to step back, look at it and figure

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out the one log that you could take out that's going to just

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break the entire thing open, right?

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Easy, hard is going out there and taking the time to take logs off one at a time,

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and hoping that eventually one of them is the right one to break everything open.

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Hard, hard is taking a step back and figuring out which one is

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actually going to work the best.

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Right.

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That's what it looks like when we put things into action.

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So discipline is about showing up and it's about not just doing busy work.

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It's about doing the right things that are actually going to help

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get us where we need to go.

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And by the way, going backwards here for a second, if you don't

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have a vision, how can you possibly know what the right actions are?

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That's why it's so important to start with that vision.

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All right.

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So we had the vision.

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We're clear on what we want.

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We know how we want our life to look.

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If being healthy is a part of that, of having more energy is a part of that.

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If being less cranky and getting easily irritated and screaming and yelling at

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your wife, your kids, your girlfriend, whoever, if those are things that you

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want to have as part of your vision.

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Well, guess what?

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You need to prioritize your physical and mental well being.

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And part of that is making time for exercise.

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It's making time to eat better.

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It's making time for sleep.

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It's making time for stress management.

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These are all the things I help people with, right?

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And the reality is, you need all those things as part of your vision.

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So what activities, what actions do you need to show up for every single day?

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Discipline.

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That are going to be the biggest needle movers in those areas.

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Now, this comes to the third part, because a lot of people

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are going to do this number.

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When I start talking about what are the needle movers, what we

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start doing is we start looking for hacks and shortcuts and tricks.

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Right?

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What is the thing I can do right now that's going to like, be like

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super easy to do and then change everything, because we all want easy.

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But remember what I said, there's easy hard and then there's hard hard.

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And the reality is, easy hard doesn't move needles.

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Doesn't matter how cool it sounds, doesn't matter if it makes a

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difference right now or not, long term, easy hard does not move needles.

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There's a good example of this is diets.

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A lot of people where they're going, Oh, I'm going to do keto.

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I'm going to do intermittent fasting.

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And look, if you want to do keto, you want to do intermittent fasting.

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Cool.

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Knock yourself out.

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Not saying that you can't.

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What I'm telling you is that those things may produce a short term result

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for you, but unless that's how you want to eat for the rest of your life.

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Unless that's what you always want to be doing, then what you're going

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to find is that those things are not going to long term move the needle.

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There is a reason why within 5 years that over 90 percent of people will

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regain any weight that they lose.

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When I talk to people about my 80 pound weight loss, losing 80

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pounds is not the impressive part.

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Keeping the weight off for over a decade is the impressive part, okay?

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I'm always very clear about that.

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People were like, oh man, how'd you lose 80 pounds?

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Wrong question.

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How did I keep 80 pounds off?

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Lots of people lose 80 pounds.

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Lots of people lose 50 pounds or 100 pounds and they regain it.

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Losing weight is not the end goal.

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So if you're just doing things that can help you lose weight, then all you're

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really doing is you're moving the needle maybe a little bit in the beginning,

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but if the needle is going to go back down to zero because you put the weight

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back on, you didn't move the needle.

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We want to move things lifetime.

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And the way we do that is not shortcuts, it's not hacks, it's not secrets.

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It's mastery.

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It's building up the skills that you need.

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Right?

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When I go and I start exercising, if I don't really know what I'm doing in

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the gym, in the beginning, I'm going to get those beginner gains, right?

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Maybe I start losing a lot of weight in the beginning.

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Maybe I, you know, would start easily putting on muscle, depending on, you

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know, how old I am in my experience in the past with exercise, but maybe.

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Early on, I see those quick gains and they give me hope.

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But where most guys fall off is when those things plateau.

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'cause they will, they will plateau if you, if even if you get the beginner

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gains, they're going to plateau.

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And when they do, most of us kind of give up because we got there.

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With the hacks we got there with the shortcuts and the reality is the shortcut

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didn't get you results You were gonna get the results anyways, just by doing

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something because they were beginner games But when we focus on mastering

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right now, we start to develop skills now we start to get better So now it's not

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just a matter of oh, I'm just gonna go to the gym and do something I'm focused

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on building my skills in the gym so that I can always progress my workouts,

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and I can progress them appropriately.

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Now, am I going to get results at the same speed that I did in the beginning?

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No.

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There's a reason we call them beginner gains.

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But, with consistency, With that discipline of showing up every day,

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learning those skills, putting them into action, developing that mastery

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of movement, getting that mind body connection, doing all those things, I'm

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going to get better at being in the gym.

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And when I'm getting better at the gym, I'm going to start

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to see better results from it.

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So, That's the blueprint for this guys.

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When we start talking about time and a lack of time, it really comes

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down to, first of all, you need to have a clear vision on what exactly

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you want to do with your time.

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What do you want your days to look like?

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Stop being reactive to everyone else's needs.

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Start being proactive to what you want your freaking life to look like.

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Okay.

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Once you have a clear vision of what you want life to look like.

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Figure out the things that you need to do.

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What do you need to do every single day?

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And maybe you can't do everything at once.

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Maybe you start with one thing, and then once you get really good at that, you

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add in another, and when you get good at that, you add in another, and when you

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get good at that, you add in another.

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Okay.

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This isn't about getting six pack abs in six weeks.

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This is about building a healthy body and mind for the rest of your life.

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So if you're going to sit there and look for shortcuts and look for things that

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you can look good in the mirror next week, then just stop listening to this podcast

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right now, stop wasting your own time.

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Because the reality is, you need to show up every single day, and

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you need to do things that are going to move the needle forward.

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It doesn't always have to be big leaps forward.

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As a matter of fact, big leaps forward rarely stick.

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Move the needle.

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That's all that matters.

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Did the needle move today?

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End of discussion.

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That's what discipline is.

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And that's why most of us feel like we don't have time.

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Because we're trying to get the big needle jumps.

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We want to see the instant change.

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And the reality is.

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You don't have time for that.

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That's why you feel like you don't have time, because you don't have

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time for what you think you need.

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And it's not your fault that you think that.

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That's what society has told us.

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That's what society has told us that we're supposed to have.

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Look at an airplane taking off, guys.

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Most airplanes, I mean, there's a few fighter jets out there that

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can just, like, lift straight up, but a commercial airliner does

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not just go from sitting there And just lift straight up into the air.

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It gets on a runway and it builds up speed slowly.

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And then once it gets to a certain speed, it takes off and

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guys, that's what we have to do.

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That's what discipline is.

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It is showing up, getting on the runway, building up our speed.

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And then when we get where we need to be.

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we take off.

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And once we take off, now mastery kicks in.

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Now we start looking at next level things.

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Now we start building the skills.

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Now maybe once we've developed the fundamentals, once we've shown up

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consistently, once we're doing those things, now maybe we can add some of those

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shortcuts and those hacks and stuff in, some of those next level things that are

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going to take us up to the next level.

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That's how we make time, guys.

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That's how we get more time in our schedule, is by

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implementing that blueprint.

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Hey guys, if you're not sure how you can find time here, if you're

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not sure where this time comes from, I'm going to give you a tool.

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And listen, I use a lot of different tools in my coaching.

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And again, if you want to see if coaching is right for you, Unshakablehabits.

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com.

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You can click on the link.

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Up in the menu to book a road map call, and that's completely free.

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It's no obligation.

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I'm going to tell you about my services.

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I'm going to tell you if I can help you.

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I'm going to tell you what your options are.

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I'm not going to sit here and lie to you and say that I'm not going to

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tell you those things, but it's not going to be a glorified sales pitch.

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I'm going to legitimately give you a road map for what you need to do

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to see the changes you want to see.

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And then you can decide if I'm the right person to help

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you implement those changes.

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But what I want to do right now is I want to give you one of my very favorite tools.

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Like I said, there's a lot of tools I use in my coaching programs, but

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this is one of my absolute favorites because it is so easy to do.

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And it is so enlightening.

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And it's called a time log.

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And what you're going to do is you're going to write down on a sheet of paper.

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The time that you wake up and you're going to write 15 minute blocks, you can do 20.

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If you want the exact number really doesn't matter.

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The idea here is that we at least want to have an, have an idea, right?

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If you want to do 30 minute blocks, do that.

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I don't care.

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Right?

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But at the end of the day, what I want you to do is I want you to

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start writing down everything you're doing and whatever the increment is.

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So if it's 15 minutes, it's 20 minutes, it's 30 minutes.

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What I want you to do is every single time you're doing those and I'm going

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to just say, don't go over 30 minutes.

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Okay.

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Okay, that's actually like the absolute bare minimum number of times

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you check in here, because otherwise you're not getting a good enough idea

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of what your time really looks like.

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I really like 15, but if you need to go 30, that's cool.

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But what you're going to do is every time that that time period

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comes up, you're going to check in.

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It might be like, okay, you know, 6 a.

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m.

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I woke up, 6.

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15, you know, I brushed my teeth, you know, like, what'd

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you do between 15, right?

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I brushed my teeth, I, you know, did this, I did that, right?

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So, you're writing down what you've done in that last 15 minutes there, or 20

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minutes or 30 minutes, and at the end of the day, you're going to be able to look

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back, and you're going to be able to see, The things that you were doing that maybe

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weren't as productive, maybe you find that you had some pockets of time you

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didn't realize you had, or you're going to find there's a lot of things that you

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did that you're like, hey, you know what?

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That's not really the best use of my time.

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I need to change that.

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And that's why I love this tool so much.

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It's not necessarily going to help you know what to do with those things.

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But it is going to help give you that enlightening event.

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It's going to help give you that awareness around the things that

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you might want to actually change.

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And it's going to help you start to form that vision for what you want

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your life to look like, how you want to spend your time, because

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I want you guys to hear this.

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It's your time.

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It's not your wife's time.

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It's not your kid's time.

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It's not your boss's time.

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It's.

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your time, you get to choose how you spend it.

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Now maybe you choose to spend that at work.

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Maybe you choose to spend that with your wife, or your

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girlfriend or your boyfriend.

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Maybe you choose to spend that with your kids.

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Maybe you choose to spend it by yourself.

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Maybe you choose to spend it exercising.

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Maybe you choose to spend it in prayer.

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Maybe it's some combination of those things.

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All that matters is you spend it doing what's important for you.

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Guys, if you've been telling yourself that time is your biggest

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obstacle, I want you to stop.

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And I want you to say that how I manage my time is my biggest obstacle.

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Because that is the reality.

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Guys, with that, we're going to wrap up today's episode, but I want to remind you,

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as always, that while none of us are born unshakable, We can all become unshakable.

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