Is Losing Weight Slowly Killing Your Results?

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Is slow weight loss really better than fast weight loss?

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That's the question we'll answer today.

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And more than likely, you have heard people tell you that you lose weight

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too quickly, you're going to put it back on, or that trying to lose

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weight quickly is unsustainable.

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And I think there is some credibility to those statements, but I think

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there is a really big thing that's missing from the conversation.

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that is actually in favor of faster weight loss and is something that the

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health and wellness industry does not do a great job of acknowledging, but

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I'm going to acknowledge it today.

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So guys, if you are new here, allow me to welcome you.

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This is Unshakable Habits, a podcast dedicated to helping men to elevate

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their physical and mental wellbeing.

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So that you can live a better life.

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I am your host, Stephen Box, a National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach.

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Guys, this conversation today was actually sparked by a podcast

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interview I did the other day.

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Fantastic interview, on the Thrive24 Podcast.

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It should be out here in the next couple weeks.

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I would highly encourage you to check it out.

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But as part of our conversation about habits and weight loss and

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things like that, there was a comment that got made by the host.

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And understand, I'm not saying this as a negative torch, and this is a

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very common belief within the health and fitness industry, that people

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get very focused on fast results.

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And I 100 percent agree with the overall point he was actually trying to make,

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which was, When people focus just on the weight loss, when they focus just

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on the number, what ends up happening is they take a lot of unhealthy behaviors

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and they start trying to lose weight and they would use those unhealthy behaviors

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to get to a certain number on the scale or a certain size pant or whatever.

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And they end up putting the weight back on.

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It's not long term, it's not a real solution to the problem, and a lot of

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times the negative effects of it can be long lasting, and it can really hurt you,

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not to mention the fact that a lot of the things that you have to do to get fast

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weight loss also are very unsustainable, and so you might be wondering, okay,

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well, Stephen, you're saying all this, but you also said there were some benefits

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to fast weight loss, so what are they?

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So here's the thing, and this is what I explained to him.

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I think it's totally understandable that people want fast results.

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But I'm also going to tell you I don't think most people

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really want fast weight loss.

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And here's what I mean.

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If I were to take just about any guy that I've ever spoken to on a

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consultation or on an initial coaching call and recorded that conversation

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and print out a transcript for you and let you read it What you would

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see is that almost every last one of them started off the conversation

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by saying I want to lose weight.

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And when I dive deeper into why they want to lose weight, it's, well, I

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want to get off these medications.

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My doctor told me if I lose weight, I can get off the medications.

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Or, well, you know what, I just don't think my wife finds me that

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attractive and I think our love life would be better if I lost some weight.

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Or, you know what, I'm tired of my knees hurting every

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single time I go up the stairs.

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And I know if I lost some weight, it would help.

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Or, I'm tired of not being able to play with my kids without getting winded.

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And I know if I lost some weight, it would help.

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I know that if I lost weight, I would have more energy.

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I would be more productive at work.

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Are you starting to see the connection here?

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There is a belief that all these problems, the real issues, the real

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things they want to solve, they believe that weight loss is the solution.

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Now, here's the thing, I'm not saying they're wrong, but I

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want to point this out to you.

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They're not looking for fast weight loss.

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What they're looking for is to get rid of all those other problems

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as fast as possible, right?

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They want their wife to find them attractive today.

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They want to be able to play with their kids this weekend without getting winded.

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They want their knees to not hurt the next time they go up the stairs.

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They want to have more energy, be more productive, and be a

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standout at work this week.

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Right?

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They're not looking to accomplish any of those things three months from now.

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Which is, you know, what most professionals are touting

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as a fast transformation.

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As a three month transformation, 90 days.

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Which, by the way, that is an incredibly fast transformation.

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It took me 10 months to lose 80 pounds, so 90 days is really like a breakneck speed.

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The thing is, I think it's understandable that people want to get rid of those

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problems as fast as possible, right?

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But here's the rub, and this is why I wanted to make this episode today.

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And this is why I was so glad when he brought this up.

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When you start to look at this, the easy trap to fall into is...

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When I get to my goal weight, everything's gonna be better.

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Why do we have to wait till we get to our goal weight, guys?

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Is there some unwritten rule that I'm not aware of that

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heavier set guys can't be happy?

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I know a lot of heavy set guys who are happy.

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So, why do we need to wait until we lose all of the weight?

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Alright, you see what I'm doing here, right?

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It's about...

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Not losing all the weight.

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It's about how can we start to develop that identity?

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How can we start to adapt the behavior?

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I've heard me talk about this before.

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Along the way, and as we start to lose weight, we'll start

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to see improvements, right?

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Your knees may still hurt, but they're gonna hurt a little bit less

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when you get that first 10 pounds off, even if you need to lose 50.

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You'll be a little less willing to play with your kids when you get

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that first 10 pounds off, right?

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You might start to feel a little bit more confident, your clothes might

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feel a little bit better, you might have a little more energy, right?

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All those things can start to happen fairly early in the process.

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Now, they're going to be way better when you get to 50 pounds loss.

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But if all we're focused on is thinking that we can't feel good

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until we get there, how much time are you taking away from yourself?

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How much valuable time are you losing out on because you're focused on the

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number and just trying to get there?

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So, Yeah, there really isn't a benefit to necessarily losing weight quickly.

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There's a lot of drawbacks to it.

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But when we look at the reasoning behind why you want to lose weight

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quickly, those are very good reasons.

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We all want to start feeling better faster, right?

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We all want to get rid of those pain points faster.

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And that is...

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A fantastic motivator and it's a great thing to keep us motivated and going

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until we start to build the momentum on our own until we start to build habits

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and everything starts to be consistent and we, you know, we still early on need

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that external motivation and this is the external motivation for a lot of us.

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I don't have an issue with guys wanting to get results quickly.

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I just want to make sure that what they're looking at is not.

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I have to get the full result quickly.

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It's, hey, let's hit the ground running here a little bit, get some results early.

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And, let's not have the results just be what's on the scale.

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Let's have them be in my mindset.

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Let's have them be in appreciating the small percentage gains

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that I'm getting along the way.

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Right, I remember when I lost my 80 pounds.

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I went to the gym, I hired a trainer.

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And I couldn't hardly do anything guys, like I remember trying to do push ups.

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I think I could do maybe two, three push ups and then I went down and, you know,

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did some on my knees or whatever, but they wanted me to do like 10 and it took me

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probably like 5 minutes to do 10 push ups.

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And afterwards, I was toast.

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Like, don't ask me to do any kind of upper body or chest stuff for at least, like,

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20 30 minutes after that, cause I'm done.

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Like, I'm toast.

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And, over time, I went from, you know, being able to do maybe, like, two push

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ups or whatever, to, I could do three, I could do four, I could do five.

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And all of a sudden, you know, I got to a point where even though I was doing some

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of them on my knees, You know, maybe I wasn't as tired afterwards, maybe I only

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needed 10 minutes instead of 20, right?

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And eventually I got to a point where I could do 10 push

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ups, like 10 actual push ups.

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And then I got to a point where I was no longer tired after doing 10 push ups.

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And it was those little steady gains that really kept me motivated.

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But had I been focused on just like, Oh, I have to get this 80 pounds off

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and that's the only thing that matters.

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I would have missed out on all that motivation and it would have been really

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easy for me to give up along the way.

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So, that is really the message I wanted to deliver to you guys today.

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just so y'all know, just a heads up, I do have, some openings

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right now for one on one coaching.

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And my prices are going to be going where they currently are come January.

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So what I'm, I'm telling you guys this now because I'm only going

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to have, I think it's four spots.

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It might be five.

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I'd have to go back and look at my logs, but, I know at least

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four spots I'm going to have open.

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Once those are gone, I'm going to sell those at the current pricing, if you

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either A, start before the end of the year, so, this is something that, you

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know, if you come, if you come to me and you say, hey, I want one of those

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spots, I, I'm ready to start, cool, we'll get you going, but if you come

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to me and say, hey, I'm not going to be ready to go to January, But I don't

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want to pay the extra price, then what you can do is you can put down the down

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deposit and save your spot for January.

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So if you want to do that, that is something that we can do for you.

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obviously I'm not going to ask you guys to make that decision right off the bat.

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Go to my website on shakablehattice.

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com.

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Click on the link to schedule a free roadmap call.

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We're going to go through, I will take you through a couple of different

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questionnaires that I have to help you determine what is going to

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be the best path forward for you.

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We'll create a roadmap for you to give you some clarity on how to go

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about achieving your goals, give you a better idea of where you are right now.

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And then from there you can decide whether you want to work with me or not.

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It's no obligation to do those.

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I don't care if 500 people book calls with me, I'm going to do 500 calls

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and, you know, there's still only going to be four or five spots available.

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So, we would definitely encourage if that's something that you're

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interested in, something you're thinking about, go ahead and get

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those booked as soon as possible.

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guys, that is it for today's episode.

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just going to keep it nice and short for you today.

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I know you guys, are busy just like me.

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so hopefully you got some great value out of that.

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