Episode 55
How Body Image Destroys Men's Health with Coach Jonny Landels
Dive into an eye-opening episode of the Unshakable Habits podcast, where host Stephen Box and health coach Jonny Landels unpack the rarely discussed yet crucial topic of men's body image and self-perception. This conversation challenges the stereotypical ideals of masculinity and fitness, exploring the often-hidden struggles men face with body positivity. Whether you're grappling with your own body image or seeking to understand the broader societal impacts, this episode offers a blend of personal insights, professional expertise, and a call for a healthier, more inclusive understanding of male fitness and self-acceptance.
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I think it's just that perception that we all
Jonny Landels:have to be that shape, right?
Jonny Landels:I think that's the most harmful thing.
Jonny Landels:And it's the same for men as it is women.
Jonny Landels:That there is like an ideal shape that we all should, aspire toward.
Jonny Landels:And that, that no matter who you are and where you are now,
Jonny Landels:that, that is possible for you.
Jonny Landels:I think that's the most damaging message.
Jonny Landels:It's it's not about being your healthiest and best self.
Jonny Landels:It's no, you need to aspire to that body shape.
Jonny Landels:And if you're not healthy, or you're not good enough, or you're not
Jonny Landels:trying hard enough, or you just need to do it for longer, to get there.
Stephen Box:Hey guys, welcome to the unshakable habits podcast.
Stephen Box:I am your host Stephen box.
Stephen Box:And you guys just heard from my guest today, Mr.
Stephen Box:Johnny Landells, who is a health coach, just like myself.
Stephen Box:And we had this great conversation about a topic that is not discussed
Stephen Box:enough and that is men's body image.
Stephen Box:And.
Stephen Box:Body positivity for men.
Stephen Box:This is a topic that usually when you hear about it, it's around women.
Stephen Box:And I think that's great for the ladies.
Stephen Box:I love that the ladies are getting that positivity.
Stephen Box:But for men, this is something we don't talk about enough.
Stephen Box:And we don't talk about the way that this has an impact on us as men.
Stephen Box:Enough.
Stephen Box:Now, I just want to really quickly before we jump into that.
Stephen Box:Tell you guys a quick update here.
Stephen Box:you may have noticed.
Stephen Box:That if you could actually subscribe to the podcast or you follow the
Stephen Box:podcast on your favorite podcast.
Stephen Box:Platforms that we haven't published an episode in about a month.
Stephen Box:And just, just a little break to recalibrate some things we're
Stephen Box:going to be shifting in the next week or two to a different format.
Stephen Box:For the podcast, I'm shorter episodes, a little bit more frequently.
Stephen Box:So just been really getting the content together for that.
Stephen Box:Before we start putting it out there.
Stephen Box:But just a heads up to be on the lookout for that change.
Stephen Box:coming up also.
Stephen Box:one thing that I'm changing this kind of a big thing.
Stephen Box:Is.
Stephen Box:I'm not going to focus just on men now.
Stephen Box:Today's episode is all about, man.
Stephen Box:There's still gonna be a lot of content out there that is
Stephen Box:focused very much someone, man.
Stephen Box:And I'm still going to have a coaching program specifically for men.
Stephen Box:So I'm not.
Stephen Box:Abandoning man, but somebody pointed out to me and I think
Stephen Box:it was a really good point of.
Stephen Box:If we help women also developed grit habits.
Stephen Box:That just creates stronger support systems for men.
Stephen Box:And I know that in my life where I've been able to be successful is because I
Stephen Box:have a wonderful wife who supports me.
Stephen Box:In so many ways.
Stephen Box:So I wanted to really make the podcast more accessible for everyone so that
Stephen Box:everyone can get the benefit of it.
Stephen Box:And there will be times where we'll have episodes like we're going to have today.
Stephen Box:That will be more focused just on men.
Stephen Box:So just throwing that out there for you.
Stephen Box:But this topic of today, going back to that.
Stephen Box:Is something that, like I said, I'm very passionate about because I noticed.
Stephen Box:That when you start looking at this idea of body positivity for men.
Stephen Box:It's almost gets negative reaction a lot of times.
Stephen Box:I'm told by people when I talk about this.
Stephen Box:Oh, you're just encouraging people to be overweight.
Stephen Box:You're encouraging people to be unhealthy.
Stephen Box:And at no point, do I ever say to someone you should just stay overweight?
Stephen Box:At no point, do I tell anyone they should be unhealthy?
Stephen Box:I encourage people to eat healthy foods, 80, 90% of the time.
Stephen Box:I encourage people to work out as consistently as they possibly can.
Stephen Box:I even give people a lot of tips on different ways to work
Stephen Box:out, to get the best results.
Stephen Box:What I don't tell people is that you need to have six pack abs to be healthy.
Stephen Box:When I don't tell people is that if you don't have big, huge muscular
Stephen Box:arms or bolder shoulders or whatever, then you're not healthy.
Stephen Box:I don't tell people that because I don't believe that to be true.
Stephen Box:When I was losing my weight when I lost my 80 pounds.
Stephen Box:There was a point where I was still a good, probably 30, 40 pounds overweight.
Stephen Box:I'm like halfway through my weight loss process at this point.
Stephen Box:And let me tell you guys.
Stephen Box:I was in better shape than some dudes who were like really skinny at the gym.
Stephen Box:Like I will, I literally worked circles around them dudes.
Stephen Box:So you don't have to be a certain way, right?
Stephen Box:There is no such thing as a certain weight or anything.
Stephen Box:That defines healthy.
Stephen Box:And I think that's really the main thing I want to stress to people here is yes,
Stephen Box:we would encourage you to be healthy, but that doesn't necessarily have to
Stephen Box:be a certain size or a certain look.
Stephen Box:Every everybody needs to figure out what works for them.
Stephen Box:In that regard.
Stephen Box:So I just want to throw that out there real quick and also just
Stephen Box:share a quick story with you guys.
Stephen Box:About why this is so important.
Stephen Box:It's so personal to me.
Stephen Box:Even though I record this interview.
Stephen Box:Couple months back.
Stephen Box:And we're just now getting a chance to publish it.
Stephen Box:This past week, I was featured in an article for the Atlanta journal
Stephen Box:constitution about new year's resolutions.
Stephen Box:And the reporter said, Hey, do you mind if I send a photographer out to your
Stephen Box:house to get pictures of you working out.
Stephen Box:Now.
Stephen Box:Be honest with you guys.
Stephen Box:I have.
Stephen Box:Not really gaining any weight.
Stephen Box:But, my workouts haven't been quite as intense.
Stephen Box:There's a lot of Christmas cookies and treats and football get togethers
Stephen Box:and all that kind of stuff going on over the last few months.
Stephen Box:And so I'm not photo ready.
Stephen Box:Okay.
Stephen Box:God, let's just put it like that.
Stephen Box:And I was getting in my own head, I was having doubts and I was like,
Stephen Box:oh, what are people going to think?
Stephen Box:Or.
Stephen Box:how are people going to see this?
Stephen Box:What if they feel like, oh, you're like, he doesn't look like a trainer and,
Stephen Box:that gives them second thoughts about working with me and all this other stuff.
Stephen Box:They started running through my head and all these self
Stephen Box:douses started going through.
Stephen Box:And the Patriot actually came out.
Stephen Box:Great.
Stephen Box:And I was like, w what was I even tripping about?
Stephen Box:Like, why am I even worried?
Stephen Box:I just, I know my stuff, all the credentials and everything I have.
Stephen Box:Why am I even worried that people aren't going to work with me?
Stephen Box:If somebody doesn't want to work with me because I don't have six pack abs.
Stephen Box:And they're just never going to work with me because I don't
Stephen Box:care about heavy six pack abs.
Stephen Box:That's not my thing.
Stephen Box:I can help you get them, but it's not my thing.
Stephen Box:It really made me feel very passionate about having this conversation,
Stephen Box:talking about this today.
Stephen Box:And that's where really where this conversation is going to go.
Stephen Box:And Johnny has a great story where he was the one who was super fit.
Stephen Box:But he didn't see himself that way.
Stephen Box:He still saw himself as someone who needed to be better.
Stephen Box:He's on the silver, someone who was not in good shape, even though he was super fit.
Stephen Box:And that really have it for him, created some major issues for him.
Stephen Box:So we're going to talk a lot about that kind of stuff today.
Stephen Box:And if you guys want to give me your thoughts on this topic.
Stephen Box:feel free to come chat with me on social media.
Stephen Box:You can find me most places at unshakable habits, or on acts.
Stephen Box:I don't really get on there too much, but you can connect with
Stephen Box:me on there at I coach habits.
Stephen Box:So I would love to hear your thoughts on this, but with that, please allow me
Stephen Box:to introduce you today to my guest, Mr.
Stephen Box:Johnny Landells.
Jonny Landels:Thanks for having me, Stephen.
Jonny Landels:It's, it's, great to be here and, great to, to have this conversation with you.
Stephen Box:Yeah.
Stephen Box:so you post a lot on social media about, this whole idea that us as
Stephen Box:men have been taught that we've got to look a certain way that.
Stephen Box:We need a certain body type.
Stephen Box:Do we got to eat a certain way?
Stephen Box:And all this kind of stuff.
Stephen Box:And I think, one of the things that originally you posted that
Stephen Box:stood out to me was this idea that language plays a trick on us.
Stephen Box:Women are a lot of times told like they have to diet and there's
Stephen Box:this whole diet culture thing.
Stephen Box:Whereas men think maybe they're a little bit more immune to it for some reason
Stephen Box:things like, Intermittent fasting or keto or whatever feel more manly and it's oh,
Stephen Box:I'm not dieting You know, or we go through bulking and cutting seasons, right?
Stephen Box:It's like what you were posting about you're like guys
Stephen Box:That's still dieting, right?
Stephen Box:Yeah, we just called a different word.
Stephen Box:So so talked to me about like first of all Where did this whole thing
Stephen Box:come from for you, like, where all of a sudden you became very passionate
Stephen Box:about speaking out against this whole mindset and this whole movement?
Jonny Landels:Yeah, I think, for me, it was something that I had always
Jonny Landels:touched on a bit, but I became much more passionate about it through, becoming
Jonny Landels:very aware of my own cyclical weight, okay, like I was someone who grew up
Jonny Landels:as a bit of a bit of a chubby kid and a bit of a a bigger teenager in comparison
Jonny Landels:to my peers and so being made fun of for my size and my weight was something
Jonny Landels:that was just happened as I was growing up so I definitely internalized this
Jonny Landels:identity of being someone who was as fat and that Was a bad thing and was
Jonny Landels:only my fault and my mission to solve.
Jonny Landels:And even though I've been completely ripped and shredded in the past,
Jonny Landels:I look back at those days now.
Jonny Landels:And in the moment of those times, I wasn't aware of the shape that I was in, right?
Jonny Landels:I was always trying to lose weight.
Jonny Landels:I was trying to focus on a certain weight on the scale, or I would
Jonny Landels:be very critical about my body.
Jonny Landels:And I would always look at myself in pictures and say, I'm not.
Jonny Landels:Lean enough, right?
Jonny Landels:Like I still have this to fix or this to fix or what have you and no matter
Jonny Landels:What approach I was on whether that was tracking my calories whether that was
Jonny Landels:tracking all my macros whether that was Intimacet fasting whether that was low
Jonny Landels:carb it would be quite cyclical for me to lose weight get quite lean Still focus on
Jonny Landels:being
Jonny Landels:quite lean and never really hit my goal my quote unquote
Jonny Landels:goal as it were and something in my life had happened where I would
Jonny Landels:just be Knocked off track, right?
Jonny Landels:Like I would either break the diet or I would just say I can't
Jonny Landels:be bothered to track anymore.
Jonny Landels:or I would start having these uncontrollable eating episodes and just
Jonny Landels:oscillate between this discipline versus this chaotic eating, and it wasn't for.
Jonny Landels:A number of years and a number of years into my coaching business,
Jonny Landels:actually, that I became very aware that this was disordered eating, right?
Jonny Landels:This was a cycle of very obsessive eating, very restricted eating.
Jonny Landels:And it was all due to the way that I perceive my body and what I saw
Jonny Landels:in the mirror, looking back at me.
Jonny Landels:And so that was when I became much more passionate about looking
Jonny Landels:into the topic of body image as it relates to body dysmorphia, right?
Jonny Landels:That obsessive nature about your body.
Jonny Landels:and how that also relates to nutrition and training and that led me to, to delve
Jonny Landels:deeper into the messages where we're provided as men, growing up and everything
Jonny Landels:that we see now of the bit muscular male as the, ideal we should be aiming for.
Stephen Box:Yeah, what exactly do you see as some of those messages?
Stephen Box:what are the couple of messages that you see out there that are really harmful
Jonny Landels:to men?
Jonny Landels:I think it's just that perception that we all have to be that shape, right?
Jonny Landels:I think that's the most harmful thing.
Jonny Landels:And it's the same for men as it is women.
Jonny Landels:That there is like an ideal shape that we all should, aspire toward.
Jonny Landels:And that, that no matter who you are and where you are now,
Jonny Landels:that, that is possible for you.
Jonny Landels:I think that's the most damaging message.
Jonny Landels:It's it's not about being your healthiest and best self.
Jonny Landels:It's no, you need to aspire to that body shape.
Jonny Landels:And if you're not healthy, or you're not good enough, or you're not
Jonny Landels:trying hard enough, or you just need to do it for longer, to get there.
Jonny Landels:And it's no matter what it takes, and it completely, literates people's own,
Jonny Landels:genetics, lifestyle, circumstances, and privileges, to find their best self,
Jonny Landels:it's no, it needs to look like this.
Stephen Box:Yeah, and I think, for me personally, one of the
Stephen Box:things that, I've picked up one.
Stephen Box:is when we find ourselves trying to go to an ideal body type, what ends up
Stephen Box:happening is we take on very unhealthy behaviors in order to achieve that goal.
Stephen Box:Because, like you said, the focus is strictly on how you look.
Stephen Box:It's the end result.
Stephen Box:Which for some people isn't even a reasonable result to attain, because like
Stephen Box:you said, different, factors like your genetics, your age, things like that.
Stephen Box:how much time you actually have available to work out or anything else, right?
Stephen Box:But it's not necessarily a realistic expectation for everybody, but if
Stephen Box:that's what you think you have to get to, instead of us focusing on the
Stephen Box:behaviors that are actually healthy, we're focused just on that body type.
Stephen Box:We do things that are actually unhealthy.
Stephen Box:And although our bodies might look better, we're actually harming
Stephen Box:our health in the long run.
Jonny Landels:Yeah, exactly that, yeah, and it's, we could get into that debate
Jonny Landels:of what looking better means, because again, looking better is attuned to
Jonny Landels:that sociological ideal that if we look at the history of humankind, we can
Jonny Landels:see that those things have shifted, as the years have shifted, and we've got
Jonny Landels:this lean ideal for men and this sort of thin ideal for women, and even now.
Jonny Landels:You can see that I think in the, in, in today's age, that's beginning to
Jonny Landels:shift again for younger generations.
Jonny Landels:Like it's not as not bleak, but it's not as like extreme as it was for say, like
Jonny Landels:I grew up in the nineties, for example.
Jonny Landels:And so I remember a lot of messaging around, women being called fat and
Jonny Landels:that was a bad thing for people like Britney Spears and people in
Jonny Landels:like Sex and the City and things like that, who were like, no way.
Jonny Landels:at all.
Jonny Landels:and I think that's that, and as you said, quite rightly, Stephen, if you
Jonny Landels:over obsess on that number on the scale, you actually get drawn into
Jonny Landels:behaviors that become very unhealthy.
Jonny Landels:Because you're thinking of the body shape or the body weight by any means necessary.
Jonny Landels:And unfortunately, that's the thing is that two people can do
Jonny Landels:the same thing, eating and exercise a lot and get different results.
Jonny Landels:Not to mention the people who are already of a lifestyle where they're very active.
Jonny Landels:They're going to be able to eat a very different.
Jonny Landels:Level of food and types of food and people who are less active and that just
Jonny Landels:be a consequence of their work, right?
Jonny Landels:And we can't just say to everyone, you know Give up your jobs and
Jonny Landels:become personal trainers because we don't have a society if everybody
Jonny Landels:was just active personal trainers
Stephen Box:Yes, that is true.
Stephen Box:I mean it would be a great, Society in terms of I saw Exercise and stuff
Stephen Box:like that, but that'd be about the only benefit that came out of it.
Stephen Box:There would be a lot of negatives too, unfortunately.
Jonny Landels:Yeah.
Jonny Landels:We'd all just be on the gym floor and nothing else would get done
Stephen Box:like that.
Stephen Box:That's the whole world would just be a big gem.
Stephen Box:That would be it.
Stephen Box:That's something we would have.
Stephen Box:and yeah, it's interest because
Stephen Box:Yeah, it's interesting me because when I.
Stephen Box:I was actually in a store a couple of months ago, I picked up on something for
Stephen Box:women, this movement of like positive body images, very much in vogue right now,
Stephen Box:there was literally pictures of women of all different sizes all over the store.
Stephen Box:So as you're walking by the women's department, pictures of
Stephen Box:larger bodies, smaller bodies, in between bodies, everything, right?
Stephen Box:But you go over to the men's section and every single picture of a guy,
Stephen Box:with the outfit on or whatever is a skinny guy or a muscular guy.
Stephen Box:There are no pictures of chubby guys in stores.
Stephen Box:Why do you think it is that for women this messaging has been so powerful
Stephen Box:and changing in the marketing, yet for men it's still been so largely ignored?
Jonny Landels:That's a great question.
Jonny Landels:and I'm not sure I could completely answer that
Jonny Landels:for
Jonny Landels:you.
Jonny Landels:I think maybe it's, I think it's maybe the amount of men that do talk about it
Jonny Landels:and kick back at it probably isn't enough.
Jonny Landels:and it isn't as widespread a message, I think with men, because there's
Jonny Landels:a generalized lack of, compassion anyway, both for for the self and for
Jonny Landels:I think there's a lot more anti fat bias inside of men than there is
Jonny Landels:within women, when I talked to lads about this kind of topic and about,
Jonny Landels:people who are bigger are clearly just eating more, exercising less, they
Jonny Landels:just need to try harder, do more work.
Jonny Landels:There's a lot more personal responsibility narrative, I think, within blokes.
Jonny Landels:And and a lot more as well of, Really all of the marketing, just
Jonny Landels:like it was for women for a lot of times is that this idea of if you're
Jonny Landels:bigger, then you should shift that.
Jonny Landels:And Hey, move away from the.
Jonny Landels:dad bod or whatever and get lean, get ripped and be this
Jonny Landels:role model for your kits.
Jonny Landels:Cause that's like the way it's positioned.
Jonny Landels:So I think we're just slower to catch up to that idea of there generally being
Jonny Landels:a variety in body shapes and sizes.
Jonny Landels:And there are more men, coming out about that and more like bigger
Jonny Landels:lads who are models and things.
Jonny Landels:As you alluded to, you wouldn't really see that in a high street shop, you'd
Jonny Landels:probably see more of that if you were shopping at a specific store, or an online
Jonny Landels:store that was for like, bigger men.
Stephen Box:Yeah, if it was like a big and tall specific kind of thing.
Jonny Landels:Yeah.
Jonny Landels:Yeah, like I think it's Jack a mole in the UK and I know that there's
Jonny Landels:like different ones in the US
Stephen Box:Yeah, I think you're on to something there though.
Stephen Box:And I think a lot of that honestly goes into other issues that we have
Stephen Box:as men in terms of the messaging the society's given us because We have been
Stephen Box:for the most part taught that as men We're not supposed to ask for help.
Stephen Box:Asking for help is a sign of weakness.
Stephen Box:We're supposed to do things on our own.
Stephen Box:You're supposed to power through.
Stephen Box:You're supposed to have a willpower and all these, messages that kind of
Stephen Box:paint this idea of masculinity as just being tough as nails and being able to
Stephen Box:push through anything and that kind of messaging I think does tie back into this
Stephen Box:idea that people get of, if you're not in the shape that I think you're supposed
Stephen Box:to be in, it must be because you're lazy.
Stephen Box:It must be because you're not disciplined.
Stephen Box:You're, you just need to buckle down and, man up.
Jonny Landels:Yeah, a hundred percent.
Jonny Landels:and also that just like complete, disregard for what someone might
Jonny Landels:say about their own habits, right?
Jonny Landels:Oh no, like I, I eat quite well.
Jonny Landels:I exercise a lot or I exercise regularly and people just disbelieving
Jonny Landels:that because of the size they are or the shape they're in.
Jonny Landels:And I think that's what's really damaging, particularly because as I've said at the,
Jonny Landels:quite early on, because two people will respond differently to the same stimulus.
Jonny Landels:If you've then got a bigger person who actually has a healthy relationship
Jonny Landels:with food and exercise, they, they eat mostly nutrient dense foods.
Jonny Landels:They occasionally eat out and, they occasionally have a pizza or a
Jonny Landels:burger or a pastry or what have you.
Jonny Landels:And they exercise, let's say three times a week and they still go on
Jonny Landels:walks and do things with their family.
Jonny Landels:Like you and I would say to each other, that sounds good.
Jonny Landels:That sounds like the balance that we'd all aim for.
Jonny Landels:But if they were bigger, it would be like, no, you need to work harder.
Jonny Landels:And I think that's the damaging message of Or just do more for now, do more, do five
Jonny Landels:sessions a week, do 15, 000 steps a day.
Jonny Landels:let's, let, let's reign in those calories, man, let's try something.
Jonny Landels:You can answer where you want to be, and then we can, think about maintenance.
Jonny Landels:I think that's the, that, that can be a damaging, recipe, because then actually
Jonny Landels:finding that maintenance becomes very difficult, because if maintenance were
Jonny Landels:those habits they were doing before, what's to stop that kind of slow.
Jonny Landels:regain back, and then you get stuck in that kind of like oscillation
Jonny Landels:between normal life and a restrictive approach to try and get down to
Jonny Landels:this magical weight target, right?
Jonny Landels:Yeah,
Stephen Box:I think something that you just touched on here that is
Stephen Box:such a Important topic to bring up.
Stephen Box:For a lot of people, this idea of being a certain size is a negative.
Stephen Box:And the reality is, there are some negative aspects of being
Stephen Box:bigger, being overweight.
Stephen Box:And, primarily we're talking about increased risk of disease, like heart
Stephen Box:disease, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, things that are preventable,
Stephen Box:and things that, we obviously should not aspire to have, right?
Stephen Box:These are things that ideally we don't want to have.
Stephen Box:So how do we find that balance between, this idea of we
Stephen Box:want to have healthy bodies.
Stephen Box:but healthy isn't necessarily what we've been taught, right?
Stephen Box:Healthy is not necessarily about being super skinny or being super shredded
Stephen Box:because I know guys who are super shredded or super skinny and their cholesterol
Stephen Box:numbers are off the boards or They've had a heart attack because their arteries
Stephen Box:are clogged because yeah, they just have really great genetics So they look
Stephen Box:great, but their diet is crap, right?
Stephen Box:Yeah so like, how do we find that balance between, okay, we don't necessarily
Stephen Box:need to say everyone needs to look this way, but let's also not just celebrate
Stephen Box:saying, yeah, just let yourself go.
Stephen Box:Like, how do we find that?
Jonny Landels:Yeah.
Jonny Landels:It's a good question, Stephen.
Jonny Landels:I think, again, I think that.
Jonny Landels:We've got to release that connotation of just because somebody's bigger than us,
Jonny Landels:that must mean they've let themselves go.
Jonny Landels:and I get your saying that because, and I know that you're aware
Jonny Landels:of that, but that's, it's like reiterating that to people listening
Jonny Landels:that doesn't always mean the case.
Jonny Landels:And as you said, there'll be people who are slimmer and or shredded who have
Jonny Landels:mostly junk food diets, don't exercise.
Jonny Landels:and so actually their lifestyles aren't healthy either.
Jonny Landels:and we do have this research.
Jonny Landels:Good.
Jonny Landels:I'm somebody who's very against the use of the BMI really, because
Jonny Landels:it's the way that it was like formed and classified and used.
Jonny Landels:But the research that we have with regards to mortality rates at certain BMIs, when
Jonny Landels:they are correlated with lifestyle habits, showcases that even people who are in
Jonny Landels:that kind of 30, 35 plus BMI category have a as low risk of mortality as people in
Jonny Landels:lower BMI categories, as long as they are.
Jonny Landels:Exercising frequently and the frequency was like 150 minutes
Jonny Landels:a week, I think, eating five or more fruits and veggies a day.
Jonny Landels:not smoking, drinking in moderation.
Jonny Landels:So it's if you've got four or more lifestyle habits that are
Jonny Landels:conducive with a healthy lifestyle, then your risk of mortality does
Jonny Landels:get reduced even at a higher BMI.
Jonny Landels:And this is what researchers are now terming like medically.
Jonny Landels:medically healthy obesity or metaphorically healthy obesity, and
Jonny Landels:like you said, if we're looking at health, it's looking at things like
Jonny Landels:those blood markers, like blood sugars, cholesterol, VO2 max, your CV health
Jonny Landels:are things that can be worked upon no matter your size or shape, right?
Jonny Landels:People can lift weights, they can do cardiovascular training and
Jonny Landels:they can have a nutritious diet.
Jonny Landels:So it's focusing on those things rather than the objective metric of
Jonny Landels:the body weight or the body shape.
Stephen Box:one thing is, you and I both are health coaches.
Stephen Box:And I think something we see in our industry that I find to be very
Stephen Box:problematic is when we go out and we start having messaging with people,
Stephen Box:what we find a lot of times is it can be very difficult to promote your services.
Stephen Box:When you start talking to people about building healthy habits and I things
Stephen Box:You know, just living a healthier lifestyle and everything because this
Stephen Box:messaging around you have to have a certain body type is so strong.
Stephen Box:and when a lot of coaches struggle to market their services, what do they do?
Stephen Box:They go back to, Oh, I'm going to help you lose X amount of fat in X number of days.
Stephen Box:And like you alluded to earlier, this idea of.
Stephen Box:hey, let's get you where you need to be and then we can maintain, right?
Stephen Box:So I just wanted to point that out because I think a lot of times, and this
Stephen Box:is very unfortunate, that people in our industry are feeding into this problem.
Stephen Box:And they're feeding into it out of, from a place of fear, right?
Stephen Box:It's the, Hey, this isn't going great.
Stephen Box:I need to get some sales.
Stephen Box:And so I go easy thing, right?
Stephen Box:I go with the thing I know people want to hear.
Stephen Box:yeah, I'm just curious, like what has been your experience with that?
Stephen Box:Yeah,
Jonny Landels:it's a good question again.
Jonny Landels:And I agree with you that.
Jonny Landels:I see that now and equally like you, it's saddening to see that there
Jonny Landels:are those pushes for those results, particularly quick results, both in
Jonny Landels:terms of advertising, as well as just general social media posts that I
Jonny Landels:see, a lot of my social media feed.
Jonny Landels:Is away from that kind of thing now, like interestingly becoming a dad,
Jonny Landels:very recently and being in my mid thirties, like I have noticed my
Jonny Landels:adverts shift, like I'm getting a lot of male personal trainers in my feed.
Jonny Landels:promising to get me lean.
Jonny Landels:like I even saw one this morning that was a 14 day challenge
Jonny Landels:that was like called lean in 14.
Jonny Landels:and we're 14 day.
Jonny Landels:small price to challenge, promising me, a certain amount of weight
Jonny Landels:loss in the kind of two week period and yeah, it's everywhere.
Jonny Landels:and I think it pulls towards people's instant gratification as well.
Jonny Landels:and since people, when they are vulnerable, when they might be
Jonny Landels:feeling like I've just had a kid.
Jonny Landels:So last, last, the last three months of my life has been quite chaotic in terms
Jonny Landels:of my sort of exercise and food because of where I'm living at the minute, but
Jonny Landels:particularly the last few weeks with a week in the hospital and two weeks
Jonny Landels:of a newborn and things like, it's a vulnerable time to get that marketing.
Jonny Landels:but in terms of seeking for business and this idea of, everybody wants fat loss,
Jonny Landels:so surely that must be what I need to do.
Jonny Landels:I, as I was pivoting, that did concern me a little bit, because I'd built up a
Jonny Landels:reputation as somebody who helped people.
Jonny Landels:Lose fat and showcase before and afters and do all those things but then when I
Jonny Landels:realized that you know A lot of the pain that I'd been suffering with regards
Jonny Landels:to my body dysmorphia With regards to my disordered eating with regards to
Jonny Landels:the habits that there were loads of other people that struggle with those
Jonny Landels:things, too You know, and talking more and more about that in my posts and
Jonny Landels:being quite authentic about it, really, led a lot of people to say, Hey, I
Jonny Landels:want to work on my fitness without those things being a struggle for me.
Jonny Landels:I'm sick of having to take out every calorie under the sun.
Jonny Landels:Like I'm sick of weighing myself every day and having that dictate my mood
Jonny Landels:as well as my eating for that day.
Jonny Landels:I want to.
Jonny Landels:I want to be a role model for my kids and be strong and be fit.
Jonny Landels:I want to be, I want to be those things rather than be focusing on like
Jonny Landels:the lean ideal that's made me this like obsessive, angry, moody person.
Jonny Landels:And so it is, if you're listening to this and you're resonating with it as a fitness
Jonny Landels:coach, it's just knowing that people.
Jonny Landels:People do want those results, like I do, I have a business, right?
Jonny Landels:And I have plenty of clients who work with me on their fitness and
Jonny Landels:their eating in a non diet way.
Stephen Box:Yeah, and I will just to play devil's advocate here for a second,
Stephen Box:say that there are some people out there that's generally what they want, right?
Stephen Box:yeah.
Stephen Box:They want to lose a bunch of fat, they want to look a certain way, and it's
Stephen Box:an internal thing for them, right?
Stephen Box:They're not just doing it because they think that's how they're supposed to
Stephen Box:look, it's how they actually want to look.
Stephen Box:And, my thing is, look, I'm not saying that you can't market to those people, I'm
Stephen Box:not saying that you can't, appeal to them.
Stephen Box:I think where my problem comes in with a lot of the marketing that I see is
Stephen Box:one thing to appeal to people that have already decided that's what they want.
Stephen Box:And you are emphasizing to them the joy that they're going to get out of it versus
Stephen Box:what I see a lot of times is we find the pain points of people who are overweight
Stephen Box:and we just hammer, hammer, right?
Stephen Box:It's here, feel even worse about yourself than you already do.
Jonny Landels:yeah, like twisting the knife, already of like their
Jonny Landels:low feelings of worth, self esteem.
Jonny Landels:oftentimes people who are bigger as well will have chaotic eating habits,
Jonny Landels:as a result as well of attempted dieting a lot of the time, right?
Jonny Landels:it's not like people who are bigger will have never tried it, and so I
Jonny Landels:agree with you there, Stephen, that There's nothing wrong with marketing.
Jonny Landels:Hey, let's get you completely shredded.
Jonny Landels:And if you're, I think that comes if you're like a bodybuilding coach, right?
Jonny Landels:If you're a bodybuilding coach or a physique coach, and you're
Jonny Landels:like, I get people shredded.
Jonny Landels:and that's what we do, right?
Jonny Landels:let's get you on stage or let's do a dance mission and hey, look, I really appreciate
Jonny Landels:it where I've got a friend who's a bodybuilding coach who walks around.
Jonny Landels:he walks around like much, much lean than I walk around, but obviously he's
Jonny Landels:been doing this now for years and years.
Jonny Landels:He does, have a very active job and trains twice a day and stuff.
Jonny Landels:But he gets a lot leaner for shows and even says, these are unsustainable things.
Jonny Landels:We're doing it to achieve something and then after that, it's we're going to
Jonny Landels:focus on what's like sustainable for you.
Jonny Landels:And I think when it's done that way, it's not pulling on pain points and
Jonny Landels:it's much more ethical marketing.
Stephen Box:And I'm pointing some of this stuff out, for anybody
Stephen Box:who's listening to right now.
Stephen Box:It's not that I'm trying to beat up on other coaches or anything like that.
Stephen Box:no.
Stephen Box:It's, I just want for people to be able to see this is the messaging that you're
Stephen Box:getting and why you're getting it.
Stephen Box:And it's just because that message is out there, just because someone
Stephen Box:is hammering you with these ideas doesn't mean that what they're telling
Stephen Box:you is right, that it doesn't mean that's the only way to do things.
Stephen Box:like you mentioned earlier, for you, like you're starting to see all these
Stephen Box:ads now, and maybe the ads were there before and you just ignored them, you
Stephen Box:now having this situation where sleep is obviously being impacted, I'm sure that's
Stephen Box:affecting the energy levels, you're not feeling as good about yourself, maybe
Stephen Box:when you do get into the gym to workout, maybe your workouts aren't as good
Stephen Box:right now, and those are all completely understandable things, but it can be easy
Stephen Box:to fall back into that trap of I'm not doing enough, I need to be doing more,
Stephen Box:I'm not doing what I was doing before, holding yourself to a previous standard.
Stephen Box:And then when somebody comes along and starts talking about, Hey, do you feel
Stephen Box:like crap, do you hate what in the mirror?
Stephen Box:You're like, you know that right now I do.
Stephen Box:And it's like you said, it's a very vulnerable place to be.
Jonny Landels:Yeah.
Jonny Landels:And it's yeah, I definitely need, high level accountability and, like someone to
Jonny Landels:whip me into shape and tell me to, follow these calories or exercise every day.
Jonny Landels:Like I need that, kick up the ass is often what you think.
Jonny Landels:Yeah.
Jonny Landels:and you're right.
Jonny Landels:we're not trying to.
Jonny Landels:Played down on any coaches at all, like I've definitely gone through my
Jonny Landels:own journey where I was a fat loss coach for a long time and the pivot
Jonny Landels:towards Being more weight neutral as I am now was a long pivot, like it
Jonny Landels:involved a lot of research on my end.
Jonny Landels:It involved a lot of reading on my end.
Jonny Landels:It involved a lot of, making peace with where correlations and associations
Jonny Landels:lie and what side of that coin I wanted to sit on, and at the end of
Jonny Landels:the day, I'm focused on helping a client with their version of health.
Jonny Landels:And help a client with their version of their best, their healthiest, fittest
Jonny Landels:confidence, however that looks, while also helping them be realistic with, with the
Jonny Landels:targets they set and also genuinely find out what it is that they want, rather
Jonny Landels:than what they think they want, because as you said, because of the marketing
Jonny Landels:that they see or the messages they hear.
Jonny Landels:Yeah,
Stephen Box:I had a conversation with a client just probably
Stephen Box:two, three months back.
Stephen Box:And we're talking and I say, what is it that you really want?
Stephen Box:And he's Oh, I need to get below 200 pounds and whatever.
Stephen Box:And he wasn't trying to get six pack abs or anything like that.
Stephen Box:He just was like, I just need to get below 200 pounds.
Stephen Box:And so I started talking to him about like why.
Stephen Box:And, he's sharing with me about, how he's going to have more energy and
Stephen Box:he's going to be able to play with his kids and he's going to be able to have
Stephen Box:more confidence and that he thinks his wife will find him more attractive
Stephen Box:and all these different things.
Stephen Box:And I asked him, do you think that you need to wait until you're under
Stephen Box:200 pounds to experience those things?
Stephen Box:And he really wasn't ready for that question.
Stephen Box:at first he's I think that, I will have those things when I get there.
Stephen Box:I'm like, can you start to have those things before you get there?
Stephen Box:And he was like, yeah, I could.
Stephen Box:And I think that's the message I really want people to start to get here, right?
Stephen Box:It's not about looking a certain way.
Stephen Box:It's about your behaviors.
Stephen Box:And here's the reality for most of us.
Stephen Box:Yeah.
Stephen Box:If we just start doing the right behaviors, weight loss is just
Stephen Box:a side effect of it, right?
Stephen Box:It's just, it just, it's something that happens.
Stephen Box:That doesn't mean you're going to get shredded.
Stephen Box:It doesn't mean that you're going to be in, good enough shape to go, to the
Stephen Box:casting for the next big Marvel movie or anything like that, but you can be
Stephen Box:healthy just by changing your behaviors, regardless of what the scale is.
Stephen Box:And I really think that's the overarching idea of
Jonny Landels:what we've talked about today.
Jonny Landels:Yeah, a hundred percent.
Jonny Landels:I loved that conversation you had with your client of can you
Jonny Landels:start having those things now?
Jonny Landels:can you start acting like that now?
Jonny Landels:what are you?
Jonny Landels:you have that conversation with people of what are you holding?
Jonny Landels:What are you holding back on?
Jonny Landels:what are you waiting for?
Jonny Landels:what are you waiting for this like new body to give you permission
Jonny Landels:to do that you're not doing now?
Jonny Landels:And what have you started doing those things now that you and I went through
Jonny Landels:the same coaching certification, right?
Jonny Landels:In terms of what are people's highest priorities?
Jonny Landels:What are people's values?
Jonny Landels:How can they start living toward those things and pairing health and
Jonny Landels:fitness with those highest priorities?
Jonny Landels:It's great when you have those conversations with clients, because
Jonny Landels:then you start talking to them about exercise, and fitness, and health, and
Jonny Landels:being like, Yeah, I want to play with my kids, I want to go hiking with my kids,
Jonny Landels:I want to go swimming with my kids, bike riding, and it's there's your fitness.
Jonny Landels:like, why are you in the gym crushing three sets of ten bicep curls?
Jonny Landels:Just because you think that the curls get the girls, like your wife loves
Jonny Landels:you already, if you embody a confident, attractive man, like that's going
Jonny Landels:to make more of a change than, a one inch bigger bicep is going to do.
Jonny Landels:And particularly if you pair that with being this like active
Jonny Landels:father that you want to be.
Jonny Landels:So I really love that point.
Jonny Landels:Yeah.
Stephen Box:It's funny you bring up the curls.
Stephen Box:Cause, I can't remember who it was that posted this, but I remember
Stephen Box:somebody made this post about.
Stephen Box:Men think that women are attracted to bigger biceps, but women are
Stephen Box:actually attracted to confidence.
Stephen Box:And most men are more confident when they have bigger biceps.
Stephen Box:So I guess indirectly they're right.
Stephen Box:That women love big biceps.
Jonny Landels:Yeah, I think that's a thing of the bravado that again, I
Jonny Landels:think this is another reason why men can struggle with a body image messaging.
Jonny Landels:Is that like a lot of the times our confidence can be tied into
Jonny Landels:our body image and teasing those things apart can be quite difficult
Jonny Landels:to do and what I'd say about.
Jonny Landels:That as well as the oftentimes acceptance of where your body is now,
Jonny Landels:men think if I accept my body now, why would I ever be driven to change it?
Jonny Landels:And you mentioned before, we don't want to just let ourselves
Jonny Landels:go for want of a better word.
Jonny Landels:but the point is that actually if you accept your body as it is, and you
Jonny Landels:want to do these healthy behaviors for the internal motivation of
Jonny Landels:doing those behaviors, any change of that as a by product is just.
Jonny Landels:potentially a bonus that in a way you want to see it and we actually take
Jonny Landels:care of the things that we like Better than we do the things we dislike.
Jonny Landels:So people always say if I like my body, I'll just not do anything And
Jonny Landels:I say actually you'll take care of it better because it's about developing
Jonny Landels:these self care behaviors from a place of like compassion and body
Jonny Landels:appreciation rather than body hatred.
Stephen Box:Yeah, because I think one thing people do miss out
Stephen Box:on, is this idea that what we're doing is we're hating our bodies.
Stephen Box:Yeah.
Stephen Box:When you look in the mirror and you say, I need to lose my gut or
Stephen Box:I need bigger arms or whatever.
Stephen Box:What you're really saying is, I don't like what I have now.
Stephen Box:And it's okay to want change.
Stephen Box:It's okay to want something to be different than what it is.
Stephen Box:But.
Stephen Box:Where does that come from?
Stephen Box:is that coming from a place of love, or is it coming from a place of hate?
Stephen Box:And I think for most of us, it comes from a place of hate.
Stephen Box:Yeah,
Jonny Landels:I'd agree with you.
Jonny Landels:And you've then got to say, how's that working for you?
Jonny Landels:like, how's that serving you?
Jonny Landels:are you stuck in that chaotic yo diet cycle, really?
Jonny Landels:It's called a spade of spade, where you're either on it for a short period
Jonny Landels:of time and you lose a bunch of weight.
Jonny Landels:And then you're off of it and you're eating pizza and doughnuts and drinking
Jonny Landels:loads of beer and gaining weight.
Jonny Landels:Yeah.
Jonny Landels:And there's no in between.
Jonny Landels:Like you, you hate your body when you're leaner, you hate
Jonny Landels:your body when you're fatter.
Jonny Landels:if you're stuck in that cycle, you're clearly coming at this from a place of
Jonny Landels:body hatred rather than appreciation.
Jonny Landels:And if that's not working for you, then Hey, what, a client said to me, a
Jonny Landels:client said this to me the other day.
Jonny Landels:They were like, what have I got to lose?
Jonny Landels:Like the last, probably many years of doing this hasn't worked for me.
Jonny Landels:they were like, let's try it your way.
Jonny Landels:I've literally got nothing to lose.
Jonny Landels:And I was like, it's true, got nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Stephen Box:you're like, you actually have a whole lot to lose.
Stephen Box:let's see, we can start with negative self image.
Jonny Landels:Yeah, negative self talk, negative self image,
Jonny Landels:let's get those things in the bin.
Stephen Box:Yeah, we can get rid of some of that, right?
Stephen Box:So we can lose that.
Stephen Box:yeah,
Jonny Landels:yeah.
Jonny Landels:Yeah, Reframe, reframe what we're getting rid of here.
Stephen Box:it's actually very interesting, Years ago, when I trained
Stephen Box:people in person, at that time, I wasn't just focused just on men.
Stephen Box:I was actually training, everybody and I remember I had this one client, female,
Stephen Box:she was, according to, BMI and stuff like that, extremely overweight and,
Stephen Box:she came in and I was already starting to develop this philosophy anyway.
Stephen Box:It's about your behaviors.
Stephen Box:It's about changing that stuff rather than the results from the scale.
Stephen Box:And so one of the things we actually did, and I'm only bringing this up because I
Stephen Box:think this is something that can really help a lot of guys out there that might be
Stephen Box:struggling with this concept, is, I said, when you come into the gym, we don't focus
Stephen Box:on weight loss, we focus on weight gain.
Stephen Box:Because what we're worried about is you'd be able to put more weight on the
Stephen Box:bar versus what the scale says, right?
Stephen Box:So we're trying to gain weight in here.
Stephen Box:We're getting our weight up in here, not down.
Stephen Box:yeah,
Jonny Landels:yeah.
Jonny Landels:I love that.
Jonny Landels:And he's positioning it then much more to the ability in the gym than anything
Stephen Box:else.
Stephen Box:And it's just it goes back to this idea of what are the
Stephen Box:behaviors that you want to do?
Stephen Box:I think that's something that a lot of guys might be thinking.
Stephen Box:Okay, if I'm not focused on fat loss, Which is something I've always focused on,
Stephen Box:or if I'm not focused on just trying to get bigger muscles because I think that's
Stephen Box:what I need, then what am I focused on?
Stephen Box:It's you're focused on the behaviors, they get you those things, but you're
Stephen Box:focused on them from the standpoint of, those are the things you want to do.
Stephen Box:you're not doing them because you want to gain muscle, you're not doing
Stephen Box:them because you want to burn fat, you're doing them because those are
Stephen Box:the activities that you want to do.
Stephen Box:Yeah.
Stephen Box:They're gonna make you healthy.
Jonny Landels:Yeah, and then, and you've got to then come from that, from an
Jonny Landels:internally motivated place where what's the motivation to be healthy, to be fit?
Jonny Landels:What do those things mean to you?
Jonny Landels:And what does that look like realistically?
Jonny Landels:And then you have the destination postcard, right?
Jonny Landels:That you can then draw a roadmap to.
Jonny Landels:In terms of these are the behaviors that I want to be doing.
Jonny Landels:You can then start from a much more sustainable place.
Jonny Landels:I know those can build over time, right?
Jonny Landels:You don't need to black out, like habits or whatever, and do all of these like
Jonny Landels:really detailed things to try and build these habits and try and hack your life.
Jonny Landels:you don't need to biohack a thing.
Jonny Landels:It's just I want to do these things.
Jonny Landels:How can I start, how can I start small and start building them into my life and then
Jonny Landels:know that they'll grow as grow naturally as they become more and more normal to me.
Stephen Box:Yeah, and to me, I think a lot of it, we have to put
Stephen Box:on ourself as health coaches, right?
Stephen Box:We have to educate people on the benefits of things outside
Stephen Box:of lose weight, get bigger.
Stephen Box:We have to do a better job of that as an industry.
Stephen Box:So for example, When we start talking about strength training, if I were to
Stephen Box:go and just randomly pick out 100 guys and ask them, what are the reasons
Stephen Box:why you should do strength training?
Stephen Box:I would venture to guess that a very small percentage of them would answer anything
Stephen Box:other than lose weight or put on muscle.
Stephen Box:Yet, you and I both know there are a lot of different benefits to adding a
Stephen Box:street training to your routine outside of gaining muscle or burning fat.
Stephen Box:Yep.
Jonny Landels:Yeah, tons of them, yeah.
Jonny Landels:I'm just ashamed that's not more well known.
Jonny Landels:particularly for blokes who are in their 30s and 40s, right?
Jonny Landels:the delay in osteoporosis and sarcopenia, the improvement in bone density.
Jonny Landels:The improvement in anabolic, maintenance anyway, right?
Jonny Landels:It's there's just so many benefits to that in terms of a
Jonny Landels:healthy functional lifestyle.
Jonny Landels:and one that you'll be reaping the rewards from in years to come, particularly
Jonny Landels:when you get older and your mates who haven't lifted start to really
Jonny Landels:struggle just with day to day function.
Stephen Box:Yeah, it's so weird for me because I'm actually 45 now and
Stephen Box:I have friends who are in their 30s.
Stephen Box:That they're, they'll Oh, like when you get out of bed in the morning and
Stephen Box:such and such hurts, I'm like, no.
Stephen Box:No, I'm sorry, I don't know what you mean, I can't relate.
Stephen Box:And, that's because I've been consistently, exercising for
Stephen Box:the last almost 15 years now.
Stephen Box:I didn't even actually start until I was like 32, 33.
Stephen Box:I didn't even start my process until then, so there's also that, guys, if
Stephen Box:you're out there going, No, it's too late.
Stephen Box:No, it's not.
Stephen Box:Not too late.
Stephen Box:Yeah.
Stephen Box:I don't know.
Stephen Box:So Johnny, one thing I wanted to talk to you about was you posted
Stephen Box:about how you were going through this transformation, right?
Stephen Box:You were transitioning from this guy that was overly obsessive
Stephen Box:about your body to someone that kind of pulled back on the reins a
Stephen Box:little bit and said, you know what?
Stephen Box:I need to enjoy life a little bit more.
Stephen Box:And with that maybe came a couple extra pounds, right?
Stephen Box:And you said that you started having people go, Hey man,
Stephen Box:what's going on with you?
Stephen Box:Did you stop working out?
Stephen Box:What's going on?
Stephen Box:What was that process like for you internally?
Stephen Box:and the reason I'm asking you this, just so you maybe know how to context
Stephen Box:the answer here is, I think there's a lot of people out there that
Stephen Box:maybe have that fear of letting go.
Stephen Box:Yeah.
Stephen Box:With, of some of their obsessive behavior.
Stephen Box:So I just want you to be able to speak to that person who
Stephen Box:has those concerns right now.
Stephen Box:Yeah,
Jonny Landels:it's a great question.
Jonny Landels:because it's somebody who had always been really lean.
Jonny Landels:to fight back against any negative comments about his body, right?
Jonny Landels:Like it was all fueled from that upbringing of being teased about my weight
Jonny Landels:and having it affect my convolutes and having it be this whole thing of my fault.
Jonny Landels:As I started to gain weight, I remember a big part of it for me was to not
Jonny Landels:actually know like how much I weighed if you ask me now like I couldn't tell
Jonny Landels:you like last time I got weighed was, for a health screening, and I remember
Jonny Landels:doing that health screening and that health screening was earlier this year.
Jonny Landels:And I think I remember seeing the weight as well.
Jonny Landels:And I was like, Will be where I thought it was, like when you've
Jonny Landels:worked with this many people and known your own body for a long time,
Jonny Landels:you'll guess, and, and it is hard.
Jonny Landels:it's difficult and it's scary.
Jonny Landels:there's a definitive fear of weight gain.
Jonny Landels:And the only thing that you can do to get over that is to go through it, right?
Jonny Landels:Like it's like having a fear of spiders or a fear of wasps.
Jonny Landels:Like you can be logical about it all you want, right?
Jonny Landels:You can read all of these things about how to get over the fear of
Jonny Landels:spiders or get over the fear of wasps.
Jonny Landels:And you can do all of this thought reframing and things as much as you
Jonny Landels:want, but you have to either be in a room with a spider for a long period
Jonny Landels:of time, and then gravity probably work up to touching the spider, maybe.
Jonny Landels:You probably could just go to I need to be in a room with a spider and
Jonny Landels:not freak out for long enough, right?
Jonny Landels:and with weight gain, you need to go through that process of.
Jonny Landels:There are certain behaviors that you are afraid of because you
Jonny Landels:connect them with weight gain.
Jonny Landels:You connect letting go of your food rules with weight gain.
Jonny Landels:You let you probably associate certain foods with being fattening
Jonny Landels:foods in and of themselves.
Jonny Landels:You associate releasing your workout schedule to gaining weight.
Jonny Landels:And it's until you start engaging those behaviors and then accepting the.
Jonny Landels:Consequence of not dying, right?
Jonny Landels:It's you're going to be able to overcome that.
Jonny Landels:And when you work on your body image and you work on your acceptance of
Jonny Landels:yourself, I had to know what my limit was.
Jonny Landels:I think in terms of my behaviors, know that if people ask me certain
Jonny Landels:questions about my shape and size and my weight and everything, I was
Jonny Landels:comfortable with giving them an answer.
Jonny Landels:because it's one of those where as a health coach, I want to
Jonny Landels:still be walking the walk, right?
Jonny Landels:As we talked earlier, I still want to be doing those healthy behaviors, because
Jonny Landels:if I'm not, then I'm just a hypocrite.
Jonny Landels:Yeah.
Jonny Landels:But because I still do all of those things, and okay, it's very
Jonny Landels:different to how it used to be, Yeah.
Jonny Landels:I can assuage myself, because where I used to be, was like, pro athlete
Jonny Landels:levels, training and nutrition.
Jonny Landels:And right now I'm at a place where my training in nutrition is better than I'd
Jonny Landels:say 90, 95 percent of the population.
Jonny Landels:I'm a bigger guy and it's I had to get to the point where I like,
Jonny Landels:yeah, okay, I've got more body fat than I used to in a period of my
Jonny Landels:life right now where things are much more chaotic than they used to be.
Jonny Landels:I'm still a very active person and I'm still a very healthy person.
Jonny Landels:It's why I get health screens.
Jonny Landels:And for me then it was working on all of those things.
Jonny Landels:So to people who are worried about it.
Jonny Landels:it's getting through that fear by engaging in the behaviours that you think are
Jonny Landels:the scariest and knowing what you're, I think, If you think you're into a
Jonny Landels:place where you're obsessive and that's having a negative effect on your mental
Jonny Landels:health and other aspects, it's thinking what is this balance for you, right?
Jonny Landels:I've found a good balance for me in terms of my food and my fitness
Jonny Landels:might be a bit skewed at the moment just because of lifestyle changes.
Jonny Landels:I'm educated enough to know that your life is very seasonal, like the season
Jonny Landels:that I'm in right now won't last forever.
Jonny Landels:And there'll be a season when I'm back to.
Jonny Landels:The routine I was pre moving into the house I'm in now and where
Jonny Landels:my baby will be older and things will be a bit more settled, right?
Stephen Box:Yeah, and I think something you just mentioned there that's so
Stephen Box:important is this idea that we have these different seasons, right?
Stephen Box:and I talk about, and I know you're familiar with this concept of the dial,
Stephen Box:where if we just imagine that there's 10 different levels of whatever it is that
Stephen Box:we're trying to focus on, whether it's exercise, nutrition, whatever, right?
Stephen Box:Yeah.
Stephen Box:And the idea is that there is no off knob, right?
Stephen Box:It's just, there's level one, which is Okay, when things are absolutely
Stephen Box:crazy, I can at least still do this.
Stephen Box:And maybe that's I'm gonna do five push ups, or maybe it's I'm gonna eat
Stephen Box:a serving, at least one serving of veggies today, or whatever, right?
Stephen Box:It's what is the simple thing you can do?
Stephen Box:All the way up to like level 10, like life is absolutely a breeze right
Stephen Box:now and I can max out my effort and the reality is that most of us are
Stephen Box:rarely ever going to be at a 10 and we're rarely ever going to be at a 1.
Stephen Box:We're going to probably live somewhere between 4 and 7.
Jonny Landels:I love the dial concept for that exact reason, Stephen.
Jonny Landels:It's a really good thing to add to that part of that conversation.
Stephen Box:I think for a lot of people, one other thing that I want to touch on
Stephen Box:here is, we, you mentioned that people have these fears around letting things
Stephen Box:go because there is this fear of, if I do that, I'm going to gain weight.
Stephen Box:If I do that, my health is going to decline, right?
Stephen Box:Yeah, but at the same time, most of those people probably already engaging in
Stephen Box:things like strict dieting, like we talked about the bulking cutting thing earlier,
Stephen Box:or, things like New Year's resolutions.
Stephen Box:Things that are not going to be sustainable or they're trying to
Stephen Box:do like the 30 day, diet shred or whatever, 14 day lean thing, like you're
Stephen Box:talking about earlier, those things also are going to have the exact same
Stephen Box:impact on what, so how do we start helping people to see that correlation
Stephen Box:or did I just do it to help them
Jonny Landels:see it?
Jonny Landels:yeah, exactly.
Jonny Landels:just know that every time you see something that has that kind
Jonny Landels:of language attached to it, that it's just, it's the same thing,
Jonny Landels:just wrapped up in a different.
Jonny Landels:Packaging.
Stephen Box:So what are your final thoughts that you want to
Stephen Box:be able to share with people here?
Stephen Box:So if there's just one or two things that you could have somebody walk
Stephen Box:away with today, what would they be?
Jonny Landels:There would be that life is too short to obsess over being
Jonny Landels:as lean as possible and that if that pursuit is leading you to a place
Jonny Landels:that is actually very unhealthy in terms of your mental health and the
Jonny Landels:practices that you're going through.
Jonny Landels:incredible obsession, and discipline that actually has a
Jonny Landels:negative effect on a lot of things.
Jonny Landels:You've got to ask yourself whether that really is the definition of
Jonny Landels:health and whether you really can see yourself doing that for the long term.
Jonny Landels:Yeah.
Jonny Landels:Because it's not, and you need to think about what your minimum effective dose
Jonny Landels:is and start working more towards that.
Jonny Landels:Let's take
Stephen Box:that in the last one, one step further.
Stephen Box:What would be some of the warning signs that somebody might be looking for to
Stephen Box:know that this mentality is having a negative impact on their mental health?
Jonny Landels:I'd say if you become so anxious about your food
Jonny Landels:and weight on a daily basis, right?
Jonny Landels:Like that, that they're things that you can never stop thinking about
Jonny Landels:and that thoughts about food and exercise take up, 60, 70, 80, 90
Jonny Landels:percent of your thinking space or more, and you're waking up every day.
Jonny Landels:You're treading, stepping on the scale, stepping on the scale, dictates your mood
Jonny Landels:for that day, thoughts about food are just revolving around how many calories
Jonny Landels:are in it, whether or not it's worth it, whether or not, you can burn it off
Jonny Landels:with some extra exercise, or whether you should go to that social event, or whether
Jonny Landels:you should have lunch with your wife, or whether you need to, start cooking your
Jonny Landels:own food again, or, Oh crap, I had a couple of the kids after school, cookies.
Jonny Landels:That's when it's like, those are warning signs, right?
Jonny Landels:that's when you're getting into that disordered level territory where it's
Jonny Landels:so obsessive and anxiety inducing rather than just a healthy behavior that
Jonny Landels:you feel good doing on a daily basis.
Jonny Landels:Yeah, I, I
Stephen Box:love that list and I'll just even maybe add a couple here of
Stephen Box:one way you might know that you're overdoing things or that you're getting
Stephen Box:a little too obsessed with things is.
Stephen Box:Listening to your body.
Stephen Box:if you feel like you're not recovering well, you're sore all the time.
Stephen Box:You're not, your energy levels aren't what they need to be.
Stephen Box:Maybe you're quick to get angry with your spouse or your kids and yell at them.
Stephen Box:Those are all things that are telling you like, Hey, you're, you need to dial back.
Stephen Box:You're doing too much right now.
Stephen Box:100%.
Stephen Box:so Johnny, if someone wants to be able to reach out with you further
Stephen Box:this conversation or they want to work with you for coaching,
Stephen Box:what's the best way for them to get
Jonny Landels:a hold of you?
Jonny Landels:Best place without a shadow of a doubt is Instagram.
Jonny Landels:It's my main platform.
Jonny Landels:I do have a podcast if people want to listen more to me, but I'm mostly speaking
Jonny Landels:with other people just like you are.
Jonny Landels:so the podcast is called Beyond the Mirror.
Jonny Landels:but if they want to check me out, then Instagram is the best place, right?
Jonny Landels:And Instagram is just my name.
Jonny Landels:and my name is Johnny without an H.
Jonny Landels:So it's J O N N Y.
Jonny Landels:And my name Landles, although rhyming with candles.
Jonny Landels:Spelled L-A-N-D-E-L-S.
Jonny Landels:So it's a an ELS rather than LES.
Jonny Landels:so those would be the two best places.
Jonny Landels:Okay.
Jonny Landels:And
Stephen Box:Perfect.
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