Episode 56
The Man With Zero Talent: Rewire Your Brain to Create an Unshakable Mindset with Sanji Nandi
Ready to conquer the challenge of change? Listen in as Stephen Box chats with Sanjib Nandi about replacing negative thoughts with positive habits.
Sanjib Nandi's story is one of resilience and transformation. After navigating through a period of uncertainty and personal struggle from 2013 to 2017, Sanjib was propelled onto a path of self-discovery. He spent 2 to 3 years meticulously working on himself, transitioning from a place of negativity to embracing positivity.
This episode might just be the game-changer you need to take the first step towards a more focused and fulfilling life.
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Welcome to the honor shakable habits podcast, where we help
Stephen Box:you to build the habits and routines they help build the life you want.
Stephen Box:So you could turn every day actions into powerful wins for
Stephen Box:your health mindset, relationships, faith, and professional growth.
Stephen Box:I am your host Steven box.
Stephen Box:And guys today, we're going to talk about a subject that I
Stephen Box:know a lot of you can relate to.
Stephen Box:Why is change so difficult?
Stephen Box:What can we actually do about it?
Stephen Box:Now you're probably familiar with the old GI Joe saying that
Stephen Box:knowing is half the battle.
Stephen Box:And I think for a lot of us.
Stephen Box:The problem isn't information.
Stephen Box:We know what we should be doing or what we need to be doing, or
Stephen Box:at least have a pretty good idea.
Stephen Box:The problem a lot of times is actually taking action on these things.
Stephen Box:Now my guest today, Mr.
Stephen Box:Sanjeev Nati is going to give you a lot of great insight and through our
Stephen Box:conversation, I think you guys are going to get a lot of really valuable nuggets.
Stephen Box:Now, before we get into our interview today.
Stephen Box:I did want to also invite you guys.
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Stephen Box:with that, allow me to introduce my guest today, Mr.
Stephen Box:Sanjeev
Stephen Box:Nandi.
Sanjib Nandi:Thank you, Stephen, for inviting me in your podcast.
Sanjib Nandi:I hope I can give some information, information tips
Sanjib Nandi:and tools for your audience.
Sanjib Nandi:Oh, I
Stephen Box:know you can, because we've already had the pre interview.
Stephen Box:We've talked about it.
Stephen Box:I know you got some value to bring today.
Stephen Box:looking forward
Sanjib Nandi:to hearing it.
Sanjib Nandi:Thank you very much.
Sanjib Nandi:just a brief introduction about myself.
Sanjib Nandi:my name is Sanjeev Nandy.
Sanjib Nandi:I was born and brought up in India.
Sanjib Nandi:I lived there for 26 years.
Sanjib Nandi:And in 2002, I moved to London, and I lived and worked there for five years.
Sanjib Nandi:And in 2008, I came to United States, and I have been living
Sanjib Nandi:here for the past 14 years.
Sanjib Nandi:I wrote my first book in 2021, The Man with Zero Talent, and it's about
Sanjib Nandi:self help and self improvement.
Sanjib Nandi:And in 2022, I launched my first app, which is called Dovo.
Sanjib Nandi:It's a free app, again, for health and wellness.
Sanjib Nandi:And, from 2013 to 2017, I was struggling in my life.
Sanjib Nandi:I was, I was not sure, what to do in my life and how to improve myself.
Sanjib Nandi:Each passing day, I was sinking deeper and deeper.
Sanjib Nandi:And after struggling for three or four years, I knew that I have to do something.
Sanjib Nandi:That led me to this journey of self transformation.
Sanjib Nandi:So I started my self transformation journey in 2017.
Sanjib Nandi:And it took me two or three years to figure it out, how we can, come
Sanjib Nandi:out from negativity to positivity.
Sanjib Nandi:And once you come out of this positivity, how to become a
Sanjib Nandi:better version of yourself.
Sanjib Nandi:And the whole point of, me writing this book is to give a clear cut roadmap to
Sanjib Nandi:anybody who wants to improve their life.
Stephen Box:So if we can back up for just a second there, so you gave us
Stephen Box:two things that I want to touch on.
Stephen Box:so number one is the book, is The Man with Zero Talent.
Stephen Box:Very interesting title, right?
Stephen Box:So is that because you see yourself as someone who didn't have any talent,
Stephen Box:or is it more just a matter of that focus of saying you don't need to have
Stephen Box:talent to be able to change yourself?
Sanjib Nandi:So the title of the book is The Man with Zero Talent, and
Sanjib Nandi:again, it's a very interesting, title, according to me, and, what I believe
Sanjib Nandi:is no human being is born talented.
Sanjib Nandi:Once, when we are born, we don't know how to fed ourselves.
Sanjib Nandi:we acquire these talents over a period of time.
Sanjib Nandi:And any human being.
Sanjib Nandi:can become, better and they can reach their full potential in
Sanjib Nandi:any field they wanted to be.
Sanjib Nandi:So that is the whole purpose I wanted to, title my book as the man with
Sanjib Nandi:zero talent because there is immense potential in every human being.
Sanjib Nandi:The only thing is you have to tap inside yourself, find that, talent and As you
Sanjib Nandi:said, consistency is the key, and once you are consistent in a period of time,
Sanjib Nandi:you will be definitely successful.
Stephen Box:And the second thing that you talked about was, you just glanced
Stephen Box:over, but you said there was a period of time where you really struggled,
Stephen Box:and you were stuck in negativity.
Stephen Box:take us there a little bit.
Stephen Box:What was going on in your life at that time?
Sanjib Nandi:for three or four years, I was dealing with circumstances
Sanjib Nandi:which is beyond my control.
Sanjib Nandi:I was in a period of negativity and thinking the same
Sanjib Nandi:thoughts over and over again.
Sanjib Nandi:Stephen, as you know that we go through 35, 000 to 70, 000 thoughts per day,
Sanjib Nandi:and 90 percent of these thoughts are the same as the day before.
Sanjib Nandi:And most of these thoughts are negative.
Sanjib Nandi:And when you are in a negative state of mind.
Sanjib Nandi:You keep repeating the same part and it becomes harder for you to come out of
Sanjib Nandi:negativity and become, something better.
Sanjib Nandi:So the same thing was happening with me.
Sanjib Nandi:I was not able to overcome a negative part.
Sanjib Nandi:So I was in that situation for three or four years, which is a very long period.
Sanjib Nandi:Yeah.
Sanjib Nandi:And once you stay for that long period.
Sanjib Nandi:about something, it becomes very hard for yourself to pull out of that negativity.
Sanjib Nandi:and, I was in bad state, I was at the rock bottom.
Sanjib Nandi:I knew that, I have to do something now, otherwise the ship is going to sink.
Sanjib Nandi:So from that point, I started working on myself.
Sanjib Nandi:I started implementing meditation in my routine.
Sanjib Nandi:And after six to eight weeks, I was able to see some kind of improvement, which led
Sanjib Nandi:me to, do other things like exercise, cold showers, healthy eating, and eventually
Sanjib Nandi:that trajectory of my life changed.
Stephen Box:just going back here for a second and touching
Stephen Box:on something you said, because I want to point this out to people.
Stephen Box:You talked about how many thoughts we have in a day, and it made me think
Stephen Box:about a conversation I had last week.
Stephen Box:Because I actually lead a small group Bible study through my church.
Stephen Box:And one of the, I forget how the topic even came up, but we were reading
Stephen Box:this book, The Ruthless Elimination of Hurries, the name of the book.
Stephen Box:And we were talking about this, and one of the ladies in the group said,
Stephen Box:it's hard for us women, because, we have so many thoughts running through
Stephen Box:our head, we can't turn our brain off.
Stephen Box:it's a real struggle, and it causes all the stress.
Stephen Box:She's you guys are lucky I don't have that problem and I started thinking about it.
Stephen Box:I was like, that's not true I mean us guys have tons of thoughts running through
Stephen Box:our head But then I realized something a lot of women that I hear that talk about
Stephen Box:this idea of their thoughts not turning off It's always considered a weakness.
Stephen Box:It's always an overwhelming thing.
Stephen Box:It's always a stressor Whereas a lot of men, when they are thinking
Stephen Box:about multiple things at once, they think of it like a superpower.
Stephen Box:it's a positive, right?
Stephen Box:And that's why you don't hear men complain about it, because
Stephen Box:it's a different perspective.
Stephen Box:And it just, when you said that, it made me think about it, because
Stephen Box:I was like, that ties in perfectly to what you're saying here.
Stephen Box:That when we get ourself into a negative loop, It's so hard to get out because
Stephen Box:every thought you have is a confirmation of that negative loop and anything
Stephen Box:that doesn't confirm your negative loop just gets thrown out versus when you
Stephen Box:start thinking positively and you start looking at things in a positive light,
Stephen Box:the exact opposite happens, right?
Stephen Box:That feeds more positivity.
Sanjib Nandi:Yes, definitely.
Sanjib Nandi:so you know, just to give a little bit of light into that, that, when
Sanjib Nandi:we are young, we are all happy.
Sanjib Nandi:10 or 11, all, whether it's men or a woman or girl or a boy, everybody's happy.
Sanjib Nandi:By the time we reach 15 or 16, we have a overrun of har hormone changes.
Sanjib Nandi:And, these hormonal changes are biological.
Sanjib Nandi:And by the time we reach 20, men are more inclined to sex and anger, and women are
Sanjib Nandi:more inclined to anxiety and depression.
Sanjib Nandi:and what happens is, if you look in the brain, that our brain weighs 3
Sanjib Nandi:pounds, which is about 20 to 25 percent of the actual, weight of the body.
Sanjib Nandi:And our brain, is very lazy.
Sanjib Nandi:it's men or women.
Sanjib Nandi:It doesn't matter.
Sanjib Nandi:it's a very lazy brain and it tries to avoid us from doing
Sanjib Nandi:the things which is hard.
Sanjib Nandi:It tries to, tell us to think about the same thing over and over again, by
Sanjib Nandi:default because The brain is made us to help us survive and it will tell us to
Sanjib Nandi:do the same things over and over again.
Sanjib Nandi:So that is the reason, the default mode takes in and we are in a
Sanjib Nandi:loop of negativity because we are in the phase of survival.
Sanjib Nandi:And until and unless we are able to think greater than the situation, we are
Sanjib Nandi:not able to overcome that negativity.
Sanjib Nandi:But, the negativity part is quite similar in men and women.
Sanjib Nandi:It's tend to be a little bit higher on a woman's side.
Sanjib Nandi:as I say, because of the hormonal changes and, and it becomes, a little
Sanjib Nandi:bit freaky because why, because a restless mind is like a monster.
Sanjib Nandi:It can make your life a nightmare, but the same mind.
Sanjib Nandi:When controlled can make your life, happy and peaceful.
Sanjib Nandi:So it's all about, how you are able to regulate your emotion and your mind.
Stephen Box:Yeah, it's interesting.
Stephen Box:We're having this conversation here about, the way the brain functions
Stephen Box:and something I talk about a lot is this idea that your brain is, as
Stephen Box:you said, wired for survival, right?
Stephen Box:That is your brain's number one job is to keep you alive.
Stephen Box:And the absolute safest thing in the world for your brain is familiarity.
Stephen Box:Because when things are familiar, your brain knows what to expect and knows the
Stephen Box:patterns and knows how to react to things.
Stephen Box:When you start doing stuff different, your brain's hold up, uncharted territory,
Stephen Box:don't know what's going on, unsafe, right?
Stephen Box:And when we start with like smaller practices and give our brain a little
Stephen Box:leeway to feel safe because we're not doing anything too out there,
Stephen Box:and we build upon those, and we become consistent, All of a sudden
Stephen Box:the new behaviors become familiar.
Stephen Box:And once those new behaviors become familiar, all of a sudden our brain's
Stephen Box:Okay, this is safe because I know this.
Stephen Box:But if we just try to change everything at once overnight, your
Stephen Box:brain's Oh, stop, too much, danger.
Sanjib Nandi:yes, absolutely right.
Sanjib Nandi:I have written a chapter in my book, which is called Kaizen.
Sanjib Nandi:Which means small consistent change over a period of time.
Sanjib Nandi:Yes.
Sanjib Nandi:if we are telling our brain, you have to go for a jog the next day or you
Sanjib Nandi:have to, wake up at five o'clock in the morning, you'll break your brain will,
Sanjib Nandi:take it as a negative thing because you're not used to waking up at five
Sanjib Nandi:o'clock in the morning, neither you are used to jogging it in the morning.
Sanjib Nandi:But if I tell your brain, okay, you wake up at 8 o'clock, wake up at 7.
Sanjib Nandi:55, your brain will say, okay, it's a piece of cake.
Sanjib Nandi:If I tell you, you have to just walk a block tomorrow, your brain
Sanjib Nandi:will say it's a piece of cake.
Sanjib Nandi:It will not, go against it.
Sanjib Nandi:And then you can eventually, improve on it.
Sanjib Nandi:You can, do two blocks and then three blocks.
Sanjib Nandi:And then, over a course of period, you will see so much of improvement.
Sanjib Nandi:So that's, again, it's a control of who is in charge of this brain,
Sanjib Nandi:whether you are in charge of this brain or this brain is in charge of you,
Sanjib Nandi:because it's either, or, somebody's in charge of this mind or the brain.
Sanjib Nandi:And we have to make sure that we are in control of this mind.
Sanjib Nandi:Otherwise mind is going to cause habit in our life.
Stephen Box:Yeah.
Stephen Box:there, there's really two brains there, right?
Stephen Box:It's there's our instinctual brain.
Stephen Box:And that's really where our emotions come from, right?
Stephen Box:And emotions for those who maybe think like emotions are just
Stephen Box:like happy, anger, whatever.
Stephen Box:Emotion is by definition your internal or external response to your thoughts, right?
Stephen Box:That's what emotions are.
Stephen Box:And Yes, happiness and anger are emotions, but I think sometimes we insist on
Stephen Box:putting a label on and we limit that definition of what an emotion actually is.
Stephen Box:So when can get that part of your brain to start to see things differently.
Stephen Box:That's the one that has all the control, right?
Stephen Box:We like to think that the logical part of our brain, is in control
Stephen Box:because it's the rational.
Stephen Box:a good friend of mine, and I quote this a lot, but a mentor and a good
Stephen Box:friend of mine actually has this quote that I love, which is that we are
Stephen Box:neither rational or irrational beings.
Stephen Box:We're post rational beings.
Stephen Box:Indeed, we're really good at just finding everything after we've done
Stephen Box:it, or after we've decided to do it.
Sanjib Nandi:Yes, absolutely true.
Sanjib Nandi:any human being, they are first going to react emotionally.
Sanjib Nandi:Because that's how we are wired.
Sanjib Nandi:The impulse which is coming from inside or outside, It first reaches
Sanjib Nandi:the emotional brain and then the circuit or impulse reaches the
Sanjib Nandi:thinking or the logical brain, which is the neocortex or the frontal lobe.
Sanjib Nandi:So there is a gap with between the emotional brain and the logical brain.
Sanjib Nandi:So that is the reason every human being, he may be highly qualified, he may be
Sanjib Nandi:a doctor or, he may be a pharmacist.
Sanjib Nandi:It doesn't matter.
Sanjib Nandi:The emotional brain is going to react faster than the thinking brain.
Sanjib Nandi:And to narrow the gap, so that, our thinking brain takes over.
Sanjib Nandi:We have to do, some of the habits, which will narrow the gap.
Sanjib Nandi:And, what I have figured out, in my reading and in, about, research about,
Sanjib Nandi:how we can, implicit the gap between the rational and the logical brain.
Sanjib Nandi:is through mindfulness or meditation.
Sanjib Nandi:Because again, these emotional brain, if you are able to control your
Sanjib Nandi:emotion for 10 or 15 seconds, the response will go to the logical brain.
Sanjib Nandi:And once the logical brain is acting, you know what is the
Sanjib Nandi:right and what is not right.
Sanjib Nandi:giving you example, before I started mindfulness or meditation, I was very
Sanjib Nandi:impulsive any human being, but once I started the meditation, after, one or two
Sanjib Nandi:years, I'm able to, watch my own emotion.
Sanjib Nandi:I know I'm getting angry and I know why I'm getting angry.
Sanjib Nandi:And I know this emotion will pass after, five or 10 minutes
Sanjib Nandi:and I will be in my normal self.
Stephen Box:Yeah, we have to figure out like how do we get that emotional
Stephen Box:reactive brain to react wherever you want it to in that moment, right?
Stephen Box:that's the key.
Stephen Box:And like you said, it's going to react before your logical brain does.
Stephen Box:So that's why a lot of times when we get angry or whatever.
Stephen Box:Our reaction comes out and as is coming out, our logical brain is just catching
Stephen Box:up and we're like, ah, it's already out.
Stephen Box:Okay.
Sanjib Nandi:Nevermind.
Sanjib Nandi:Damage has been done by that time.
Sanjib Nandi:And you realize after 5, 10 minutes, you shouldn't have, the active in that way.
Sanjib Nandi:It happens within every human being.
Stephen Box:so let's talk a little bit about how do we
Stephen Box:start getting our brain rewired.
Stephen Box:So you'd be able to catch ourselves.
Stephen Box:Before we say something that we shouldn't say, or do something we shouldn't do,
Stephen Box:or react in a way we shouldn't react.
Sanjib Nandi:so as I say, that meditation is one of the tools to do it.
Sanjib Nandi:And, just to explain a little bit of meditation.
Sanjib Nandi:That meditation is a form of deep, mindful concentration on an object,
Sanjib Nandi:place, thing, or just on your breath.
Sanjib Nandi:So it's a form of exercise tailored specifically for your brain.
Sanjib Nandi:it has nothing to do with any, any kind of religion because we all need
Sanjib Nandi:concentration, to, live a fruitful life, to live, to accomplish our goals.
Sanjib Nandi:You can be a scientist, you can be a professor, teacher,
Sanjib Nandi:parents, dentist, any profession.
Sanjib Nandi:We have to focus and concentrate to accomplish our task.
Sanjib Nandi:And that is the role of a meditation.
Sanjib Nandi:What we are trying to do in mindfulness or meditation to have a single
Sanjib Nandi:thought.
Sanjib Nandi:And once we are having a single thought, we are controlling this
Sanjib Nandi:restless mind and we are controlling this emotional brain at the same time.
Sanjib Nandi:Because our mind is jumping from one thought to the other thought.
Sanjib Nandi:it's, compared to a drunken monkey who is jumping from one
Sanjib Nandi:tree to another without purpose.
Sanjib Nandi:That's hard.
Sanjib Nandi:That's what happened to our thoughts.
Sanjib Nandi:And it's any human being, you might be thinking about something
Sanjib Nandi:and the next minute you are thinking about something different.
Sanjib Nandi:And sometimes it's hard to figure out, figure it out, why, seems weird, I was
Sanjib Nandi:thinking something different now and my thought is, completely different at the
Sanjib Nandi:next minute and it's, and, sometimes it is the hard way we have to learn it,
Sanjib Nandi:okay, that, this mind is very powerful, but it is very restless at the same time.
Sanjib Nandi:So how we can have a single part.
Sanjib Nandi:So that we can, accomplish greater things in our life and control this
Sanjib Nandi:emotional brain because, once you are able to control this emotional
Sanjib Nandi:brain, you are able to understand and you are able to, give a logical
Sanjib Nandi:explanation to whatever is happening.
Sanjib Nandi:So that is one of the ways, any human being can do it is
Sanjib Nandi:meditation on mindfulness.
Stephen Box:And I want to dive more into the meditation
Stephen Box:conversation here in a second.
Stephen Box:but I want to take a pause here and just help people see
Stephen Box:what we've talked about so far.
Stephen Box:Really connect this back to what we promised people at the beginning,
Stephen Box:which is we're going to take you from I know what I should be doing to
Stephen Box:actually starting to take action on it.
Stephen Box:Okay.
Stephen Box:And the thing I want to point out at this point is If you think about the
Stephen Box:way that we were just conversating about the brain and the way that works, what
Stephen Box:you'll start to see is that all of your thoughts, all those things that you
Stephen Box:know you should be doing, are things that are coming from your logical brain.
Stephen Box:They're not coming from that subconscious brain.
Stephen Box:They're not coming from that emotional brain.
Stephen Box:And Part of the reason why it's so difficult for most of us guys to
Stephen Box:make changes is because we're trying to make everything happen from our
Stephen Box:logical brain, which is always playing catch up to our emotional brains.
Stephen Box:And what we're diving into now as we continue this conversation is How
Stephen Box:do we start getting those two brains in alignment with one another, and
Stephen Box:how do we actually start to get our subconscious brain to get on board with
Stephen Box:the things that we want to accomplish?
Sanjib Nandi:Very well said, Stephen.
Sanjib Nandi:Just, just one more point I wanted to, put at this point is, our brain is a,
Sanjib Nandi:pleasure seeking machine or animal.
Sanjib Nandi:We want pleasure all the time, to the point that it becomes a hedonic
Sanjib Nandi:pleasure because when we are doing any pleasure activity, it releases dopamine.
Sanjib Nandi:And once the dopamine is released, we feel happy.
Sanjib Nandi:So anything which is challenging or anything is difficult, our
Sanjib Nandi:brain tells us not to do it.
Sanjib Nandi:And we want, instant gratification.
Sanjib Nandi:We don't want to wait for six months or one year to accomplish something.
Sanjib Nandi:So that is one of the reasons that, we don't try different things.
Stephen Box:Yeah, I 100 percent agree.
Stephen Box:so as we think about those things, and we start looking at some of the tools,
Stephen Box:so we'll just use meditation for it now.
Stephen Box:Like you said, it's not the only tool, but it's definitely a good
Stephen Box:place for a lot of people to start.
Stephen Box:And I would just throw out there for people who hear the word meditation.
Stephen Box:And instantaneously get scared off 'cause they have this preconceived notion
Stephen Box:about what meditation is or whatever.
Stephen Box:There are literally hundreds of examples, probably thousands of
Stephen Box:examples of meditation in some form or another being used in basically
Stephen Box:every religion in the world.
Stephen Box:It's been used by people who don't even practice any kind
Stephen Box:of religion or spirituality.
Stephen Box:It's literally thousands of examples of people using meditation in one form
Stephen Box:or another all throughout history.
Stephen Box:So this is not some new thing.
Stephen Box:It's not, sitting with your legs crossed and humming or whatever, right?
Stephen Box:you can do that there.
Stephen Box:if that's your thing, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that, but.
Stephen Box:I think for a lot of people, they think that's what it has to be, and
Stephen Box:that's not what meditation has to be.
Stephen Box:It's like you said, it's really just about a time period of focus,
Sanjib Nandi:right?
Sanjib Nandi:Yes, it's basically to improve your focus and concentration.
Sanjib Nandi:and as you mentioned that we don't have to sit in a lotus position, you
Sanjib Nandi:can sit in a chair and You can sit in your sofa, you can sit in your
Sanjib Nandi:back, bed, as long as your back is straight or your spine is straight,
Sanjib Nandi:that's what it matters, because all the communication between the brain and the
Sanjib Nandi:body is happening through the spine, which is the central nervous system.
Stephen Box:so just want to make sure I'm understanding here.
Stephen Box:So you're saying, The most important thing is having our back
Stephen Box:straight, having our spine straight.
Stephen Box:That's really going to allow to make sure all those connections between the brain
Stephen Box:and the rest of our body are in alignment.
Stephen Box:They're able to communicate with each other.
Stephen Box:And also, I know you, you didn't say this part, but I'm already assuming this
Stephen Box:has a lot to do with our breath as well, because I know our back needs to be
Stephen Box:straight for us to breathe well as well.
Sanjib Nandi:Yes, definitely.
Sanjib Nandi:you can concentrate on your breath Like, when you are inhaling it, you can, just
Sanjib Nandi:saw, just assume the breath is going to the diaphragm and the exhale, that
Sanjib Nandi:breath is coming outside and breath.
Sanjib Nandi:Why breath?
Sanjib Nandi:Because breath is the thing which is always present with you.
Sanjib Nandi:And that is the thing you can concentrate on.
Stephen Box:And there are a lot of.
Stephen Box:there are a lot of research out there that actually backs up the idea
Stephen Box:that our breathing is a great way to actually control our stress response.
Stephen Box:And, you talked earlier about negative thoughts versus positive thoughts.
Stephen Box:one of the major things that contributes to that is our current level of stress.
Sanjib Nandi:Yes, definitely.
Sanjib Nandi:when we are breathing, we activate the sympathetic nervous system.
Sanjib Nandi:So when the sympathetic nerve, no, when we breathe, slowly, it activates
Sanjib Nandi:the parasympathetic nervous system.
Sanjib Nandi:And when the parasympathetic nervous system is activated, it
Sanjib Nandi:decreases your heart rate, your blood pressure, your cholesterol.
Sanjib Nandi:Your insulin level, so everything gets controlled because you are activating
Sanjib Nandi:the parasympathetic nervous system, which is the arrest and the recovery mode.
Sanjib Nandi:When you are, in a fight or flight mode, which is the sympathetic
Sanjib Nandi:nervous system, you are rushing all the blood to the arms and legs.
Sanjib Nandi:you are stressed out, the cortisol level in the body is more.
Sanjib Nandi:and, that leads to, more stress and more, diseases in the body.
Stephen Box:Yeah.
Stephen Box:I think, people miss this idea of like stress is good, right?
Stephen Box:When we have just enough stress to motivate us, right?
Stephen Box:That's a good thing.
Stephen Box:When stress becomes problematic is when it is consistent and when we're overloaded.
Stephen Box:so for example, the flight or fight syndrome, if I'm in a dangerous situation,
Stephen Box:My stress response kicks in flight or fight, and I either, fight off my,
Stephen Box:danger or I flee and get out of there.
Stephen Box:And so in that instance, a stress response is fantastic because it kept me alive.
Stephen Box:Oh, yes.
Stephen Box:But that stressor is a long lasting and it is cumulative.
Stephen Box:We need that.
Stephen Box:It just gets worse and worse over time.
Stephen Box:Eventually that's when it becomes problematic.
Sanjib Nandi:Yes, definitely.
Sanjib Nandi:Acute stress is not bad.
Sanjib Nandi:as you mentioned, that helps, for the survival.
Sanjib Nandi:But when that stress becomes chronic, when you are thinking the same
Sanjib Nandi:thought, over and over again, when it becomes chronic, then it is, downhill.
Sanjib Nandi:Because stress is always going to be here, Stephen.
Sanjib Nandi:it is not going to go away because, fear is the main reason which is stopping us
Sanjib Nandi:from doing greater things in our life.
Sanjib Nandi:everybody, and fear system is engraved in our brain, which is the amygdala,
Sanjib Nandi:which is the fight or flight response.
Sanjib Nandi:Every human being has it, which helps us to survive.
Sanjib Nandi:it has been there for millions of years and it helped us, survive our ancestors.
Sanjib Nandi:We don't need it today, but it is still there.
Sanjib Nandi:We don't have any big predators like lion or tiger, tigers.
Sanjib Nandi:But we have normal stress like, our neighbors are going to work or our,
Sanjib Nandi:spouses, those are the things which is giving us stress, but when it becomes
Sanjib Nandi:chronic, you are thinking over and over again, then it becomes a problem.
Stephen Box:And by the way, just to tie this back to what we said
Stephen Box:earlier, the emotional brain, doesn't think about things, it doesn't,
Stephen Box:Take the time to figure stuff out.
Stephen Box:to it, the difference between something going on with your neighbor and a tiger
Stephen Box:chasing you, there is no difference.
Stephen Box:It's the exact same thing, right?
Stephen Box:It's not until later on when our logical brain gets to finally kick in that we go.
Stephen Box:Oh, that's not that big of a deal It's just my neighbor, right?
Stephen Box:So it's you know from a Emotional reaction standpoint your body is
Stephen Box:going to react the exact same way to you getting you know Into with your
Stephen Box:neighbor getting cut off in traffic or getting to argue with your wife as it
Stephen Box:would if you're being chased by a tiger
Sanjib Nandi:Yes Same thing because it'll release the stress hormone in the body.
Sanjib Nandi:there is a direct connection, through the neocortex, which, or the frontal
Sanjib Nandi:lobe, and through the adrenal gland, which is the adrenal modula, which
Sanjib Nandi:is just located above the kidneys.
Sanjib Nandi:And so in simple terms, the brain.
Sanjib Nandi:Tells the body to release stress hormone in stressful situation.
Sanjib Nandi:And once this stressful situation, hormones is released, it
Sanjib Nandi:decreases immunity in the body.
Sanjib Nandi:Once the immunity decreases, you have to deal with different, diseases in the body.
Sanjib Nandi:So again, this mind and body is not separate entities.
Sanjib Nandi:This is, all interwoven in mind body relationship.
Stephen Box:Yeah, something that was very interesting for me, being a health
Stephen Box:coach and having to study the body is, I always observed this idea of,
Stephen Box:it's interesting that we have a left and right hemisphere in our brains.
Stephen Box:Yeah.
Stephen Box:We have a emotional part of our brain.
Stephen Box:We have a logical part of our brain.
Stephen Box:We also have, you know, a, basically we have a brain in our stomachs and
Stephen Box:then we have our brain in our head.
Stephen Box:We have these two different nervous systems.
Stephen Box:It's It's interesting when you start to look at all the parts in our body
Stephen Box:that actually are two different things and they're opposite of each other.
Stephen Box:And when people start to go, why is this so hard to change?
Stephen Box:Why is it so hard to just do these things?
Stephen Box:Your body is literally fighting against itself and you pretty much all the time.
Sanjib Nandi:yes, Steve, you have a very, greater knowledge and
Sanjib Nandi:understanding of the mind and body.
Sanjib Nandi:Because, understanding these things is important.
Sanjib Nandi:Once you have the knowledge and your audience have the
Sanjib Nandi:knowledge, it's easier to change.
Sanjib Nandi:just to give you a little bit idea of, the left hemisphere and the right hemisphere.
Sanjib Nandi:Like the persons who are left brainers, they are good at, analytical reasoning or
Sanjib Nandi:more practical, good at maths and science.
Sanjib Nandi:The person who are more right brainers, They are good at, arts, good at intuitive,
Sanjib Nandi:and once you become whole brainers, you can use, both your left and right brain.
Sanjib Nandi:Then your clarity, focus, you become a better version of yourself.
Sanjib Nandi:Yeah.
Sanjib Nandi:And just to relate it to mindfulness or meditation increases the
Sanjib Nandi:thickness and volume of the corpus callosum, which is joining the left
Sanjib Nandi:hemisphere and the right hemisphere.
Sanjib Nandi:So once that thickness join, once you are able to use both sides of the
Sanjib Nandi:brain, you become, definitely, much more better than what he used to be before.
Sanjib Nandi:And just touching the point.
Sanjib Nandi:Yeah.
Sanjib Nandi:Just touching the point about, our gut health, which is again, very important.
Sanjib Nandi:And as you are aware that 90 percent of the serotonin is, produced in our gut.
Sanjib Nandi:Yeah.
Sanjib Nandi:we have to make sure that we are eating healthy at the same time,
Sanjib Nandi:because, life is not about taking care of one individual thing.
Sanjib Nandi:It's having a holistic approach.
Sanjib Nandi:You have to see, your body, mind, and your habits as one thing and
Sanjib Nandi:what you can do to, improve yourself.
Stephen Box:Yeah, I think, a couple of things that you just hit on there
Stephen Box:when we start looking at this idea of meditation and mindfulness, is
Stephen Box:number one, it is a reset, right?
Stephen Box:Because by activating that parasynthetic system.
Stephen Box:We are, I mean it's literally called the Rest and Digest System.
Stephen Box:It's literally what it's called.
Stephen Box:when we get, give our body an opportunity to actually activate that system,
Stephen Box:we are literally resetting things.
Stephen Box:we talked earlier about how stress only becomes problematic When it is long term
Stephen Box:and cumulative, and part of the way that we get to long term and cumulative stress
Stephen Box:is by not having regular resets, right?
Stephen Box:that's why something like mindfulness and meditation is so important,
Stephen Box:because it gives us literally a reset to our stress levels.
Stephen Box:The other thing is, you talked about it connecting the two parts of your brain.
Stephen Box:literally physically helping to connect those two parts of your brain.
Stephen Box:So that you can start to see things with more clarity.
Stephen Box:Yes, absolutely right.
Stephen Box:And then I love your point about, nutrition, exercise
Stephen Box:goes in that same category.
Stephen Box:And those are things that if you actually listen to the majority of the episodes
Stephen Box:that I've done on here, what you hear over and over again is that people
Stephen Box:usually started with something else, and then that something else led to
Stephen Box:better exercise and better nutrition.
Stephen Box:Yeah, absolutely.
Stephen Box:Most of us, especially here in, in Western culture here in the United States
Stephen Box:are very focused on the diet, right?
Stephen Box:What exercise do I need to do?
Stephen Box:And you can do that.
Stephen Box:but I always try to tell people, Nutrition is more about being
Stephen Box:aware of what you're eating.
Stephen Box:It's really about how you think about eating and all those things
Stephen Box:versus just the food itself.
Stephen Box:And then exercise, at least to me, is partly, of course, to build your body
Stephen Box:up, but it's really about building more mental strength than it is anything else.
Stephen Box:And that's why a lot of times when you see people start to develop
Stephen Box:those other habits, Exercise and nutrition just become natural for them.
Stephen Box:So if you're finding yourself struggling to actually get into exercise and
Stephen Box:nutrition, if you're finding those hard, hard entry ways into a healthier
Stephen Box:lifestyle, take a step back and start with being more mindful and getting
Stephen Box:rid of the negative thoughts and start replacing the positive thoughts, and
Stephen Box:you will be shocked how easy exercise and nutrition actually become.
Sanjib Nandi:Yes, you are to the point.
Sanjib Nandi:And, as you mentioned that, when I started my self transformation
Sanjib Nandi:journey, like exercise was or not, in the agenda, so it becomes, part of my
Sanjib Nandi:lifestyle, slowly and eventually, because once I saw the benefit of exercise.
Sanjib Nandi:As you know that it releases happy hormones like endorphins,
Sanjib Nandi:dopamine, serotonin in our brain.
Sanjib Nandi:And as you mentioned that if exercise is for the body, it's about mental strength.
Sanjib Nandi:When we are doing exercise, it is giving you the, mental fitness.
Sanjib Nandi:Because our mind is not a muscle, but it, works or acts like a muscle.
Sanjib Nandi:The more stronger your body is, the more stronger your mind is, going to become.
Sanjib Nandi:And you are able to handle, different kind of stress in your day to day activity.
Sanjib Nandi:Because, that's how you are able to, deal with the stress.
Sanjib Nandi:Otherwise, these stresses will be always there for everyone.
Sanjib Nandi:So we have to see, what are the things which can reduce this stress.
Sanjib Nandi:And, exercise is the best form of medicine.
Sanjib Nandi:Which has been found in research that if you have anxiety, stress,
Sanjib Nandi:depression, that's the best thing to do is do exercise.
Sanjib Nandi:Even if we are walking it, the research has shown that it decreases
Sanjib Nandi:the cardiovascular disease by 32%.
Stephen Box:it's amazing all the benefits of it, right?
Stephen Box:And, but I think there's so many people, they struggle with it because
Stephen Box:we live in a day and age where, Everything is right now, right?
Stephen Box:We feel like constantly we're being bombarded with
Stephen Box:something else to have to do.
Stephen Box:An email from somebody that needs an urgent response.
Stephen Box:A phone call that has to be taken right now, right?
Stephen Box:There's always something coming up that is keeping us from doing what we want to do.
Stephen Box:And I find for so many of the people that I've worked with over the years,
Stephen Box:that it's not until they can let go of some of those expectations that
Stephen Box:they can truly start to, to get this.
Sanjib Nandi:Yes, definitely.
Sanjib Nandi:No, we have to do it for ourselves.
Sanjib Nandi:when I see my life, I'm not comparing myself with anybody else.
Sanjib Nandi:I see myself as, okay, if I'm able to improve from what I was
Sanjib Nandi:yesterday, then I'm doing, better.
Sanjib Nandi:And that shouldn't be the criteria.
Sanjib Nandi:What happens is we start comparing our life with somebody else's life.
Sanjib Nandi:Oh, see, he's doing so much and I should do, these things at the same times.
Sanjib Nandi:And that makes, somebody, unhealthy and unhappy at the same time.
Sanjib Nandi:Because, the ultimate goal is, we want it to be happy at the same time.
Stephen Box:So one thing we haven't really touched on yet.
Stephen Box:And then, I really want to get into some of the specifics of, how
Stephen Box:do we get into meditation here?
Stephen Box:But one thing that I love about this idea of taking some time out for some
Stephen Box:mindfulness meditation is it gives us an opportunity to start to really
Stephen Box:connect with what's actually important.
Stephen Box:And that's the point I was getting at earlier with, talk about making time
Stephen Box:for things and until like we have all these other things pressing for our time.
Stephen Box:If when we constantly allow ourselves to be bombarded by other people,
Stephen Box:we do not get a chance to actually know what's important to us.
Stephen Box:And so these moments of silence and solitude are very helpful in really
Stephen Box:hearing that inner voice and really understanding, what is it that my
Stephen Box:body is telling me that it needs?
Stephen Box:Because our bodies are always communicating with us.
Sanjib Nandi:Yes.
Sanjib Nandi:as you are touching the point of meditation, how somebody can connect
Sanjib Nandi:it, to your own mind and body and the best thing which I have figured
Sanjib Nandi:it out is, When you do mindfulness or meditation, when you wake
Sanjib Nandi:up,
Sanjib Nandi:that is the best time.
Sanjib Nandi:Why?
Sanjib Nandi:Again, I will give you a little bit of scientific explanation because, I like
Sanjib Nandi:to talk about brain and science and, when we are sleeping, we are in delta wave.
Sanjib Nandi:When we wake up, we are in theta waves and 10 minutes or 15 minutes after wave
Sanjib Nandi:kicking, we will go to alpha waves.
Sanjib Nandi:And then, as we are speaking with each other, we are at beta waves.
Sanjib Nandi:So when you wake up, 10 minutes, if you are able to meditate.
Sanjib Nandi:You are able to reach your subconscious mind and you can, be as calm as
Sanjib Nandi:possible and you can, direct your day the way you want it to do it
Sanjib Nandi:because it will stay with you.
Sanjib Nandi:Once you have, you know how you want your day to be because
Sanjib Nandi:that is the best time to change.
Sanjib Nandi:Your day and your life at the same time.
Sanjib Nandi:And the same thing is when you are sleeping, before you go to bed, if
Sanjib Nandi:you do, 10 minutes of, 15 minutes of mindfulness, again, there is a window
Sanjib Nandi:of, opening your subconscious mind.
Sanjib Nandi:Because again, you are, going from alpha to theta to delta waves.
Sanjib Nandi:And if you wanted to reprogram your brain for, serenity or
Sanjib Nandi:equanimity, that is the point.
Sanjib Nandi:And, that is helpful for so many of people because when we are actively
Sanjib Nandi:thinking all the time, it becomes harder for us to, go from beta waves
Sanjib Nandi:to the alpha waves and delta waves.
Sanjib Nandi:And, we are not able to sleep because, we are not able to stop our internal chat.
Sanjib Nandi:Once you are able to, quieten the prefrontal lobe, it becomes so
Sanjib Nandi:much easier to go to alpha and theta waves and, it will make your
Sanjib Nandi:life so much, happy and fruitful.
Stephen Box:So for people who maybe don't know all the different
Stephen Box:wavelengths and what that means.
Stephen Box:so help us understand a little bit about that, like when you talk
Stephen Box:about the importance of being, within a certain wavelength, when
Stephen Box:we do these mindfulness sessions.
Sanjib Nandi:so basically, when we are doing this mindfulness session,
Sanjib Nandi:we, in any period from morning to evening, we are in a beta waves.
Sanjib Nandi:It means, we are actively working, we are thinking, we are doing
Sanjib Nandi:the things which is necessary.
Sanjib Nandi:and, we have to learn to toggle between, alpha waves to theta waves so that
Sanjib Nandi:we can switch our brain, whichever way we wanted to do it, because we
Sanjib Nandi:cannot always think all the time.
Sanjib Nandi:We want, that calmness and serenity in our life at the same time.
Sanjib Nandi:once, That, it's easier to do it when you sit quiet, that you are
Sanjib Nandi:able to change your brain waves from beta waves to alpha waves, and alpha
Sanjib Nandi:waves to beta waves, and beta waves
Stephen Box:to delta
Stephen Box:waves.
Stephen Box:so what is, what does it mean to change, when we change
Stephen Box:to alpha waves, what's happening?
Sanjib Nandi:alpha waves, when you are changing to that wavelength,
Sanjib Nandi:you are making yourself more calm.
Sanjib Nandi:It means, you're, you have much less information in your prefrontal lobe.
Sanjib Nandi:The blood flow in the prefrontal lobes gets less, so you can quieten your mind.
Sanjib Nandi:So that's what it is happening because we cannot think all the time.
Stephen Box:And then what about it outside and Delta waves?
Stephen Box:what are those about?
Sanjib Nandi:it's a resting phase where you are not sleep,
Sanjib Nandi:but you are, in a sleep mode.
Sanjib Nandi:And that is the phase, which is easier to program your subconscious mind.
Sanjib Nandi:Because, you are from, you are, right now toggling between,
Sanjib Nandi:sleep, deep sleep and near asleep.
Sanjib Nandi:And that is the phase if you wanted to implement something that, you
Sanjib Nandi:wanted to become better at something.
Sanjib Nandi:you want, to implement, affirmation or visualization, that is the period you can
Sanjib Nandi:use, that period to make yourself better.
Stephen Box:So for somebody wanting to get started with this and they're
Stephen Box:like, you know what, I'll give this a try and see if it works for me.
Stephen Box:What is like the first, like day one step that you would recommend for somebody?
Stephen Box:other than downloading the app, which we're going to get to here in a second.
Sanjib Nandi:Yes.
Sanjib Nandi:the first thing anybody can do is, go to a quiet place.
Sanjib Nandi:It can be, your room, you can just pick a quiet place.
Sanjib Nandi:You can sit in your chair, sofa, you can, lie down, whatever you feel comfortable.
Sanjib Nandi:You need a position which is comfortable.
Sanjib Nandi:And, you can, pick a object, you can pick a thing, or you can, have a
Sanjib Nandi:image, you want to concentrate, or you can just, concentrate on your breath
Sanjib Nandi:and, just try to concentrate what is happening right now at that time.
Sanjib Nandi:And your mind is going to wander in 10 or 15 seconds, which is fine.
Sanjib Nandi:Just bring your heart back to your original thought,
Sanjib Nandi:whatever you are thinking.
Sanjib Nandi:If you're imagining a beach, just have an image of that beach.
Sanjib Nandi:Your thought is going to go to different places.
Sanjib Nandi:Just bring your thought to that original places.
Sanjib Nandi:That's what you have to do.
Sanjib Nandi:And eventually you will get better and
Stephen Box:better.
Stephen Box:Okay.
Stephen Box:and started off, I think a lot of times people do tend
Stephen Box:to try to do too much, right?
Stephen Box:They're like, I'm going to commit to 10 minutes of
Stephen Box:meditation every day or whatever.
Stephen Box:And just confirm for me if this is accurate or not, but I feel with something
Stephen Box:like this, it's not necessarily about getting the benefit day one, right?
Stephen Box:It's about starting to build the skills.
Stephen Box:And that means if you only can do 30 seconds, even it's just that's 30 seconds
Stephen Box:of practice time that you're getting.
Stephen Box:And over time, you just get longer and longer and you get better and better.
Sanjib Nandi:Yes, as Dalai Lama said, start with 30 seconds every day.
Sanjib Nandi:And once you are doing, 30 seconds, you will gradually increase
Sanjib Nandi:it and you can, become better.
Sanjib Nandi:And once you see the benefits, and that is the hardest part, why people don't,
Sanjib Nandi:indulge in meditation on mindfulness, because, you cannot measure it.
Sanjib Nandi:It's not tangible, once you are able to see the benefits, it takes four
Sanjib Nandi:to six weeks or around eight weeks.
Sanjib Nandi:Once you see the benefits, it becomes, so much natural for you to
Sanjib Nandi:sit in because this is helping me so much, for me, it has become a habit.
Sanjib Nandi:I know that, I have to sit in the morning and before going
Sanjib Nandi:to bed, I know the benefits.
Sanjib Nandi:I know it keeps me so much calm.
Sanjib Nandi:It gives me so much happiness that, I cannot just not do it.
Sanjib Nandi:it is, it has become so much internalized now.
Stephen Box:Yeah, I think that's really good advice.
Stephen Box:just that matter of looking at it more from a long term, And don't
Stephen Box:feel like you have to do a lot.
Stephen Box:Just start where you are and allow it to just naturally become a part of your day.
Stephen Box:And once you.
Stephen Box:Okay, commit to a minimum amount of time, committing to the action itself,
Stephen Box:your brain will start to react to it.
Stephen Box:And as you do, the experience that I've had for myself, as well as a lot
Stephen Box:of clients has been, and now it's just something like this, but with anything
Stephen Box:really, is the more that you do it, The more your brain starts to become
Stephen Box:familiar with it, the more it starts to become easy to actually implement
Stephen Box:into your day, into your routine.
Sanjib Nandi:Oh, yes.
Sanjib Nandi:It's definitely anything, we are trying to change.
Sanjib Nandi:It takes time, but as long as you are giving your time and effort, you are
Sanjib Nandi:going to become better and better.
Sanjib Nandi:like I'm a self taught, meditator, I never went to anybody, anybody can
Sanjib Nandi:learn through their own experience.
Sanjib Nandi:you might feel some of the days, which is fine, nobody's perfect all the day.
Sanjib Nandi:You might think some of the days that, you are going backwards, which
Sanjib Nandi:happened with everyone, but, having the habit of sitting, for at least,
Sanjib Nandi:two or three minutes or five minutes.
Sanjib Nandi:And gradually improving it to 20 minutes, what a course of one year
Sanjib Nandi:or two year, you will see that, it has changed the course of your
Stephen Box:life.
Stephen Box:Awesome.
Stephen Box:And for those who maybe want to get a little extra help, tell us
Stephen Box:a little bit about the app, how people can find it and what they
Stephen Box:can expect when they download it.
Sanjib Nandi:So people can download, the free app, which is called Lovo
Sanjib Nandi:from, Play Store or App Store.
Sanjib Nandi:There is no subscription fee and in that app, there is four sections first is
Sanjib Nandi:about meditation We have guided meditation and unguided meditation Then we have a
Sanjib Nandi:section about exercise that you know The app will count the number of steps you
Sanjib Nandi:are taking the calories burned and the distance traveled And you can connect
Sanjib Nandi:your smartwatch like, any kind of watch with that app and it will get all the
Sanjib Nandi:data from the smartwatch to the app.
Sanjib Nandi:Then there is a section about water intake because as you know that we live in cold
Sanjib Nandi:countries and we don't drink enough water.
Sanjib Nandi:And if we don't drink enough water, it can lead to anxiety or depression.
Sanjib Nandi:So that app is going to remind you, okay, drink enough water
Sanjib Nandi:every two or three hours.
Sanjib Nandi:And the last section is about sleep analysis, like it will give you
Sanjib Nandi:an analysis of your sleep, light sleep, deep sleep, REM sleep.
Sanjib Nandi:And you can connect your smartwatch again and you can get all the
Sanjib Nandi:information from your smartwatch.
Sanjib Nandi:there are good things at the same time and you can download
Sanjib Nandi:my free book from the app.
Sanjib Nandi:There is a link provided.
Sanjib Nandi:If anybody wants to read my book, The Man with Zero Talent, it's
Sanjib Nandi:again, available there for free.
Stephen Box:Okay.
Stephen Box:Awesome.
Stephen Box:and I will include in the show notes links, to the app on both
Stephen Box:the store as well as, Google play.
Stephen Box:And also if you have, Amazon link or anything to the book, I'll include
Stephen Box:that in the show notes as well.
Sanjib Nandi:Yeah.
Sanjib Nandi:All the links has been provided to you so you can, share all the links and.
Sanjib Nandi:And, they can get the free version, which might be, more useful to the audience.
Stephen Box:Yeah, we'll, we'll definitely leave that up to them how
Stephen Box:they want to, go about getting it.
Stephen Box:Cause people prefer different things in different, formats.
Stephen Box:So we'll let them make their own decision on that one.
Stephen Box:Sanjeev, I wanted to say just thank you for coming today.
Stephen Box:Really appreciate it.
Stephen Box:loved our conversation.
Stephen Box:We got to really talk a lot about just habits in general and change
Stephen Box:and, give people some really useful and helpful tools for starting to
Stephen Box:create that change, in their life using mindfulness and meditation.
Stephen Box:Thank
Sanjib Nandi:you.
Sanjib Nandi:very much, Steve, for inviting me in your show.
Sanjib Nandi:I think, your audience will get, some of the useful tips.
Sanjib Nandi:From you as well as me, you are very knowledgeable and, I appreciate
Sanjib Nandi:that, I have a conversation with you.
Sanjib Nandi:I appreciate that.
Sanjib Nandi:do you have any final thoughts that you would like to leave the audience with
Stephen Box:today?
Sanjib Nandi:the final piece of advice I want to give to your
Sanjib Nandi:audience is improve your self talk.
Sanjib Nandi:Why?
Sanjib Nandi:Because we all talk very negative with us.
Sanjib Nandi:When we are saying to ourselves, I'm not good at something, We are
Sanjib Nandi:telling our conscious as well as subconscious mind that we don't
Sanjib Nandi:need any help in this matter.
Sanjib Nandi:And I've seen so many, people saying that I'm not good at maths or I'm not
Sanjib Nandi:good at science or, I have anxiety.
Sanjib Nandi:So rather than saying this, say to yourself, you are getting better.
Sanjib Nandi:You are a genius.
Sanjib Nandi:you love yourself.
Sanjib Nandi:Use affirmation, visualization or mantra.
Sanjib Nandi:to improve your self talk, which will, change your belief.
Sanjib Nandi:And once you change your beliefs, you can become a better version of yourself.
Stephen Box:Love it, man.
Stephen Box:That's a, that's great advice.
Stephen Box:definitely something I think.
Stephen Box:What makes a huge difference for a lot of people is just changing that
Stephen Box:self talk and, that's part of your mindfulness and meditation, right?
Stephen Box:When you're doing that and you start to hear that negative self talk kick in,
Stephen Box:when you start to have those negative thoughts, that's a great opportunity
Stephen Box:to start just becoming aware of them and start to think about how can
Stephen Box:you reframe them into a positive.
Stephen Box:So I love it.
Stephen Box:Great advice.
Stephen Box:And, just want to remind everyone that.
Stephen Box:none of us born unshakable, but we can all become unshakable.
Stephen Box:See y'all next time.
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